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GrandPal Deb Pillow

Deb Pillow, originally from Michigan and with a background in teaching and storytelling, found her perfect fit in GrandPals after moving to Princeton from Arizona just two-and-a-half years ago. With two married sons and four grandchildren spread across the country, GrandPals allows her to indulge her love for books and young children while enjoying retirement in Princeton.

“Frances is such a sweet and enthusiastic kindergartner and listener. He has a vivid imagination and loves books. The week before spring break, I asked him if his family was going to do anything special or go anywhere over spring break. With his usual enthusiasm, he replied, ‘Oh yes, I think we’re going to the beach. And I told my daddy I wanted to take my GrandPal.’ What a thought!!!
P.S. I didn’t go 😉 but it really touched me to think he wanted to include me.”

GrandPal Joan Kuskin

Joan Kuskin is the grandmother of five wonderful adult granddaughters, and have very much missed the experience of reading to them as young children. It is therefore not surprising that her GrandPal day has become the highlight of her week, and has been since she began volunteering in 2019.

“GrandPal day is definitely the highlight of my week. The smiles, hugs, curiosity, and skills of these extraordinary kindergarteners touches my heart.

This year has been especially rewarding because of Lillian, who presented me with my very own ‘Jackson Pollack’ after our holiday break. She and her sister were inspired to create this after their Grandmother took them to tour his house and work in Long Island.

Lillian’s dream is to become an artist, and so each time we meet she brings me another of her works, which I treasure. I am thankful for the GrandPal program which has brought joy to all of us who are involved.”

GrandPal Ellen Gilbert

Ellen Gilbert is a retired librarian. She has been doing GrandPals for about a hundred-million years, and thinks it’s the bee’s knees.

“Early on, Camryn was quick to point out that something I described as ‘blue’ was actually teal. I understood right away that this child was unusually precocious. We were delighted to discover that we share the same birthday — October 13 — and even though he is six and I am seventy-one, we are the best of pals.”

GrandPal Frank

GrandPal Frank: Spreading Joy One Fist Bump at a Time

In the heart of our GrandPals sessions, amid the pages turned and stories shared, there exists a moment of pure magic that captures the essence of our intergenerational bond. Meet Frank, a beloved member of our GrandPals family, whose simple gesture of a fist bump has become a symbol of joy and connection for both young and old alike. After each session, as the little munchkins bid farewell and form a line to leave the library, Frank does something truly special. With a sparkle in his eyes and a warmth in his heart, he goes over to each and every child, offering a fist bump that radiates love and affection. It’s a small gesture, but one that holds immeasurable significance in the hearts of those who receive it. What makes Frank’s fist bumps truly remarkable is the genuine excitement they evoke in every little reader. Despite the fleeting moments as they march off to their next class, the sparkle and joy in their eyes are palpable as they eagerly await their turn to exchange a fist bump with Frank. It’s infectious happiness at its finest, filling the room with laughter and warmth. As a witness to these heartwarming exchanges, I find myself unable to resist the allure of Frank’s infectious joy. At forty-eight years old, I too find myself drawn to Frank, eagerly reaching out for a fist bump that symbolizes the bond we share as members of the GrandPals family. In these simple yet profound moments, Frank embodies the spirit of GrandPals — a community built on love, understanding, and the joy of shared experiences. His gestures may seem small, but their impact reverberates far beyond the library walls, leaving an indelible mark on the hearts of all who encounter them. So, here’s to Frank, our GrandPal extraordinaire, whose fist bumps remind us that true happiness lies in the connections we forge and the love we share. May his warmth and kindness continue to inspire us all as we journey together through the pages of life.

MGA, a Master’s in Grandparent Administration
by Frank McBrearity

Upon retiring from business in Connecticut, my wife and I moved to Princeton to be near our daughter’s family with three children. As we departed, I advised everyone that I was moving to Princeton to study for a second master’s degree, an MGA, a Master’s in Grandparent Administration, and a new direction. After arriving, I learned that the most admired programs are offered through the Princeton Senior Resource Center: the “GrandPals” courses at selected elementary schools.

I enrolled in the fall of 2019 and joined Anica and Aranya at a table in the library at Riverside School with several other GandPals. I read and shared important textbooks with two smart and engaging young people, who selected their favorite books and topics for each class. Each class was graded by the number of high-fives at the conclusion. In 2020, I became a “Pen Pal” with Eleanor. Five well-crafted letters were shared in January and February.

Classes were suspended during the COVID interruption, pausing my MGA effort. Classes are now resumed with Walter and Bodie, two bright and talkative young boys. They pick the books for me to read, and we talk together about the topics, our pets, and our favorite sports. I am pursuing my MGA with attention, appreciation, and generosity. Classes now end with many fist-bumps. It is sharing and caring. The many other Grand Pals join me in bringing generations together in the inviting atmosphere of the Riverside School.

Meet Virginia

Hi, I’m Virginia, and let me share my wonderful experience at the lottery event on March 16, hosted alongside the Princeton Art Museum and Princeton Human Services. Coming from Lawrenceville, I felt a deep connection to the community spirit that filled the air that day. Winning a beautiful fairy for my garden, and even a cake from Chez Alice, made the day truly special!

As a Venezuelan immigrant since ’78 who turned proud U.S. citizen, I’ve cherished the sense of belonging and togetherness that this country offers. That’s why I’m thrilled to recommend joining the community garden – a space where we can share the fruits of our labor, both literally and figuratively. It’s all about fostering connections, giving back, and growing together.

Events like these remind me of the beauty of community and the power of collective work. I’m grateful for the opportunity to share my story and encourage others to embrace the spirit of unity and growth in our vibrant community.

Meet Robin Bivins

I’m Robin Bivins, a Princeton local and the sixth generation from the heart of New Jersey. Right now, I call Reading Circle home, and I’ve got to tell you, the Center for Modern Aging Princeton has become a special part of my life.

I joined in on the Christmas dinner festivities for the first time, and let me tell you, it was something else. The warmth, the laughter, and the sense of community—it just clicked. I’m definitely coming back for more, ready to dive into other programs they’ve got going on.

Why do I love it here? Well, it’s simple. The Center has been a real blessing for me. It’s not just about the activities; it’s about the people and the connections we make. There’s a certain joy in being part of something that feels like family.

Now, beyond the center, I wear another hat—I’m an evangelist at the Mount Pisgah AME Church right here in Princeton, a church with a whopping 198 years of history. I have a soft spot for spending time with older adults and making sure our seniors are well taken care of. I’ve been in the caregiving game for a long time, taking care of my mom and my husband through his battle with Alzheimer’s. It’s made me a bit of an expert on the topic, and it’s something close to my heart.

So, what’s my secret to staying active and healthy, you ask? Well, it’s not a secret, really. I’m all about social work and helping where I can.

Meet Debra Morgernstern

I discovered a gem within the Center for Modern Aging Princeton — the French club. Joining this vibrant community not only revived forgotten memories but also introduced me to a circle of wonderful individuals. It’s a clear testament to the diverse and enriching experiences this center has to offer.

As a proud member of the Center, I can confidently affirm that this place has become my sanctuary. Seamlessly addressing the holistic needs of older adults, it provides a harmonious blend of social, physical, and mental stimulation.

Reflecting on life’s unpredictable journey, a valuable piece of advice stands out to me: embrace positivity. This mindset has been my guiding light when navigating challenges. Regular physical exercise plays a pivotal role in maintaining this outlook, and my deep love for dancing, especially salsa, has added a joyful rhythm to my daily routine. Dancing has become more than a pastime; it’s a source of pure joy and a life-changer.

Allow me to extend this heartfelt wisdom to you — in the flow of life, adopting a positive perspective and nurturing your physical well-being can be truly transformative.

Consider this my warm invitation to embark on a journey of self-discovery, community connection, and the simple joy of being. Give yourself the opportunity to explore endless possibilities and embrace the wisdom that comes from living a fulfilling life, all while reveling in the uplifting joy that dancing, particularly salsa, can bring. Envision each day as a new chapter in the beautiful story of life, waiting to be unfolded with a dance of joy.

If you are human, you have biases

We all hold unconscious beliefs about others; it’s normal to categorize or organize our understanding of other people. This is known as “unconscious bias” or “implicit bias.”

Identifying our own biases can be complicated since they are strongly influenced by our upbringing and exposure to different groups of people. Additionally, there is no clear way to express them, and they encompass aspects such as political ideology, religious beliefs, financial influence, and misinformation, among others.

Some common examples of biases are:
• Attacking someone of a particular religion by questioning their nationality.
• Reporting an LGBTQ+ person for using the women’s restroom.
• Prohibiting employees from speaking a different language in public places.
• Calling the police because a couple of people of color are in a public space for an extended period.
• Assigning tasks only to people with whom we feel comfortable, ignoring the knowledge of others due to their different backgrounds.

Do I have biases?
Despite our best intentions, biases and discrimination can emerge in our communities, often where we least expect them.

Our biases can manifest in our behavior, comments, emails, text messages, articles, and in the connections, we establish with those around us. Some red flags include:

• When defending our arguments, we selectively present facts to reach our only conclusion.
• Attempting to persuade friends or family to think in a certain way without evidence for what we say.
• Using humor or irony to refer to certain people or groups.
• Using coded language, i.e., seemingly innocent words with an alternative or offensive meaning, such as “drug addicts,” “illegals,” “foreigners,” etc.
• Suspecting that someone has committed a crime based on their ethnic origin, either consciously or unconsciously.
• Paying more attention to the tone, emotion, or presentation of a fact, rather than what happened. This often occurs when concerns about racism or discrimination are invalidated.

A Starting Point
Because we are seldom aware of our biases towards others, it is crucial to create awareness to mitigate collective harm. To do this, it is essential to initiate conversations about the impact of discrimination. Here are some recommended practices:

Stay calm: Although it may be challenging to talk about biases, it is essential to remain calm.
Awaken your curiosity and listen: Listen to all opinions, even those that make you uncomfortable. Practice empathy by putting yourself in the other person’s shoes.
Don’t take anything personally: Avoid taking the opinions of others personally. Often, biases reflect more on the person expressing them than on the recipient.
Reflect on the conversation: Think about what you have learned by listening to others. Develop genuine empathy by putting yourself in their place.

Now that you’re willing to see the world through the eyes of others, what will you change in the future? Is there anything you can modify in your own behavior? Although we are very different individuals, our common ground is that we all belong to the human race; it’s just a matter of remembering it!

Meet William Freeman

My wife passed away last June after battling cancer. It was a tough time for both of us, and her absence is felt every day. We spent over five decades together, and Princeton became our home during that time. Despite the sorrow, I find solace in the fact that Princeton is a place I truly cherish. It’s a quiet and welcoming town with a low crime rate, making it a place where I’ve felt secure and content.

The recent focus of my efforts has been on putting my life back in order after her passing. Today, for instance, I’m fixing a flat tire on my truck, a small task but an essential one to keep me mobile. I’ve come to appreciate the simple joys of life and the importance of taking care of myself.

In this personal journey, I’m committed to maintaining a balanced diet, staying hydrated by drinking plenty of water, and ensuring I get enough rest. These small habits, I believe, contribute to a healthier and happier life. Despite the challenges, I’m determined to continue doing what I can to add more years to my life, honoring the memories of the wonderful years I shared with my wife in this town we both called home.

Decluttering, Ho! Strategies for Creating a Tidier, Stress-Free Space

Are you surrounded by sentimental keepsakes, items that might come in handy someday, and a hodgepodge of papers and gadgets you don’t know what to do with? If so, you’re not alone! Many of us accumulate items for a variety of reasons.

Objects hold sentimental value and can remind us of significant moments in our lives. High school yearbooks, the ball from your daughter’s Pitch-N-Putt hole-in-one on a family road trip in 1972, the mezzaluna knife passed down from your Nonna, the clacking-marble Newton’s cradle from the office you did good work in for forty years — these all represent facets of our personal histories, and it makes us feel good to have them around us.

Other objects we hold on to because they might be useful someday, or because it seems wasteful to throw them out. Who hasn’t received a gift and immediately thought: This is a good box! Or kept that XL left-leg splint in case another tall person happens to break their left leg too?

Things can accumulate for less compelling reasons as well, such as habit (condiment packets! Playbills! Holiday cards!) or uncertainty about how to get rid of them. Before we know it, we find ourselves surrounded by an ocean of stuff, hindering our comfort and productivity — even holding us back from moving to places better suited to our current lifestyles. This is where a decluttering adventure begins!

Here are some strategies to get started:

Say No to Junk Mail:
Treat junk mail like a vampire — don’t invite it in! Keep a recycling bin near the door to dispose of it promptly and prevent it from piling up.

One In, One Out Rule:
Control clutter by adopting the “one in, one out” rule. For every new item brought into your home, discard or donate a similar item.

Everything Has a Home:
Designate specific places for different types of objects to prevent duplication and maintain an organized living space.

Learn Local Disposal Procedures:
Familiarize yourself with your neighborhood’s waste pickup opportunities. Check your municipality’s website for bulky trash pickup procedures and county resources for paper shredding and hazardous materials disposal.
Mercer County’s 2024 Special Waste disposal dates can be found here: http://www.mcianj.org/

Attend John Walsh’s FYI Decluttering Program:
On February 5, at 2:00 p.m. CMAP is hosting a seminar by John Walsh, CEO of Walsh Senior Solutions. Mr. Walsh has helped many families with decluttering, downsizing, and moving. His lively presentation will give you strategies, tips, and proven game plans for conquering your clutter issues! The seminar is free and will be held both in person at NSK and hybrid via Zoom. Register here.

Join the Clearing Spaces Support Group:
If you’re seeking motivation and support during your decluttering journey, consider joining Clearing Spaces, a weekly Zoom support group held every Monday at 3:00 p.m. starting February 12. We will share strategies, and success stories, and tidy up small spaces together while enjoying upbeat music. Participation is free! Register here.

Follow these strategies to reclaim your space and make room for the life you want to lead. See you at the Decluttering FYI and Clearing Spaces!

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