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Climate Change Endangers Many Older Adults

In 2007, Larry Howe watched a documentary called The Great Global Warming Swindle, which denied the threat of climate change. Convinced, he put the issue out of his mind. 

But that changed a few years later when Howe’s first grandchild was born. A retired engineer, Howe, 64, dug deeper into the science. Now he’s active with the Citizens’ Climate Lobby and talks to local groups, like the Rotary Club and Kiwanis, in Plano, TX, where he lives. He’s often met with skepticism—especially among people in his own age group. 

“Most don’t think they’ll be negatively impacted themselves,” he said. “They may agree that climate change is a serious problem but think ‘I won’t be around for it. It’ll get worse, but after I’m gone.’” 

If anybody should be concerned about the issue, it would seem to be older people, who stand to suffer more from climate-change-related problems—from weather disasters to air pollution. And many, like Howe, do grow more concerned about the future when grandchildren arrive. Yet many older adults remain unprepared for disasters in their own homes and communities, and studies suggest elders are less concerned about climate change than their younger counterparts.

So why the disconnect? 

Climate Disasters and Later Life

Climate change is triggering more frequent and more disastrous weather events, and older adults stand to suffer the most. Nearly half of those who died in 2005 during Hurricane Katrina were 75 or older. In 2012, when Hurricane Sandy hit New York and New Jersey, almost half of those who died were over age 65.

“Older adults are more vulnerable and experience more casualties after a natural disaster, compared to other age groups,” according to a study from the American Red Cross Scientific Advisory Council and the American Academy of Nursing. The study cited the likelihood that older adults will have chronic conditions and rely on medications, and will be dependent on assistive devices (like walkers or eyeglasses) and support from caregivers. Older people are also more likely to live alone, leaving them even more vulnerable. Those with mobility limitations are at greater risk, because it’s more difficult to get out of harm’s way. 

From 2015 to 2019, the United States saw at least 10 massive, climate-related disaster events each year, with each incurring a loss of $1 billion or more—the longest streak since record keeping began in 1980. In 2020, as of October 7, the United States was affected by 16 climate-related disasters with losses per event exceeding $1 billion: one drought, 11 severe storms, three hurricanes and one wildfire. 

“As we respond to disasters, we see the heartbreak of … communities dealing with the new realities of more intense storms, heavier rainfall, higher temperatures, stronger hurricanes and historic wildfires,” the Red Cross said in a 2019 statement on climate change. 

At the same time, older people are less likely than others to be prepared in the event of a major disaster. One 2014 survey found that two-thirds of adults 50 or older had no emergency plan, had never participated in any disaster preparedness educational program and were not aware of the availability of relevant resources. More than a third of respondents lacked a basic supply of food, water or medical supplies in case of emergency.  

Chronic Problems Made Worse

Older people often suffer from chronic health problems that can be exacerbated by climate change. Global warming leads to longer allergy seasons and more air pollution, affecting people with allergies, asthma and other lung conditions. As heat waves grow more and more extreme, older people stand to suffer more, and need to stay in more, especially those who retired to sunbelt states like Arizona. Some scientists speculate that climate change might also mean more risk from new infectious diseases—such as COVID-19—and might make people who live with polluted air more vulnerable to them.

Climate change also affects the costs of living. Energy expenditures to keep a home air conditioned go up as the temperatures rise. Home insurance rates skyrocket in areas subject to disasters like wildfires, flooding and hurricanes; in some cases, homeowners can’t even get insurance.

“So, you have increasing costs at a time when your income is fixed,” said Howe. “Age is like a threat multiplier when it comes to climate change.” 

Attitudes toward Climate Change

But while there’s a consensus among scientific, disaster-response and medical experts that climate change disproportionately threatens the health and safety of older adults, that’s not reflected in the attitudes of this age group. Older people seem even less aware than their younger counterparts of the threats they face.

Michael “Mick” Smyer has researched older adults’ attitudes toward climate change. He is a gerontologist, professor emeritus of psychology at Bucknell University and the founder and CEO of Growing Greener: Climate Action for a Warming World, an organization that promotes education related to climate change. 

While concern and awareness are increasing among people of all ages, there are some age differences. Smyer points to research and analysis from the Yale Program on Climate Change Communication. When asked, “How worried are you about global warming?,” 72 percent of younger people (ages 18-39) reported they were “somewhat” or “very” worried. By contrast, only 61 percent of baby boomers (ages 56-74) and 56 percent of those 75 or older reported the same levels of concern.

The lack of awareness and disaster preparation among older adults might relate to human nature—our capacity to dismiss danger when it’s not imminent. When asked, “How much do you think global warming will harm you personally?,” the age differences narrowed, with 44 percent of younger people responding “a moderate amount” or “a great deal,” compared to 41 percent of boomers and 39 percent of the oldest respondents. 

“That’s not a big difference,” Smyer said. “Can we find older adults who are members of the climate change denial club? Absolutely. Look at the ranking, senior, US senators. But can you generalize to all older adults? No.” 

Natural disasters make the news, but climate change itself gets less than one percent of airtime.

However, Smyer thinks there may be age differences in the way that older people prepare for disasters. Smyer, 70, was born and raised in New Orleans; Hurricane Katrina was the impetus that spurred his interest in climate change. He thinks more older adults died in Katrina, in part, because they’d lived through many hurricanes before and chose not to evacuate. Most were able to weather the hurricane itself—but not the flooding and prolonged disaster that followed when the levees broke. 

“Older adults thought they knew how to survive hurricanes,” he said. “And in a sense, they did. They were the ones who had axes in their attics, to chop their way through the roof to survive a flood. But many thought, ‘I’ve learned from previous, similar disasters and I can generalize to this situation.’ Except the conditions changed, and that’s what people don’t appreciate.” 

Smyer attributes the disconnect between awareness and action to what he calls society’s “climate silence habit.” Natural disasters make the news, but the bigger and longer-term cause—climate change—tends to fall to the background.

The 24-hour news cycle saturates viewers with news of weather events, but climate change gets very little airtime. Media Matters, a US media watchdog, calculated that only 0.3 percent (55 of 16,000 total minutes) of evening news airtime on the major TV networks (ABC, CBS and NBC) was dedicated to climate change in 2018. (That’s compared to 28 percent of news minutes dedicated to President Trump.) 

Some efforts for change are underway. Until recently, TV meteorologists traditionally avoided discussing climate change on the air, wishing to avoid appearing too political. Now many are bringing up the issue regularly, and even talking about possible ways to tackle it, according to a panel of meteorologists and policy experts convened at the 2020 meeting of the American Meteorological Society. 

“Broadcasters have an unusually good platform from which to engage,” said Ed Maibac, the director of the Center for Climate Change Communication at George Mason University. He noted that weather casters telling local stories about climate change have increased more than 50-fold over the last eight years.

Making the Message Stick

Rick Lent, 72, didn’t think much about climate change until a conversation with his college-age granddaughter two years ago. 

“Please tell me there’s something to be hopeful about in the future environment I’m living into,” she said. “Because I’m really scared.” 

That spurred Lent to activism through the Boston chapter of Elder Climate Action. He shares the conversation he had with his granddaughter when he speaks to groups of older adults at senior centers and community centers. Often, he has to hold back tears. 

“I have to watch my emotions when I tell that story,” he said. “That really personalizes it.” 

Smyer thinks that’s key. “The best way to reach older adults is through family members,” he said. He created a deck of climate-change cards to encourage young people—from elementaryaged kids to college students—to start the conversation. 

Their attitude [to climate change] is, “I’m not going to be around to fight that battle, so what can I do?”

— Rick Lent 

“What’s really clear to me is that older adults are not just potential victims but also potential leaders of climate action,” Smyer said. 

Lent says he sees two kinds of responses among older adults when he talks about climate change. 

“Well educated, middle- or upper-middle-class people don’t seem to be paying much attention,” he said. “I can’t say why except that they did what they were supposed to do —raised families, put money in their 401K—and now they’re retired and enjoying life. Their attitude is, ‘I’m not going to be around to fight that battle, so what can I do?’” 

He says it’s even more difficult to engage low-income people of color. 

“Those are the people most impacted by climate change and who have the fewest resources to deal with it,” he said. “If you can’t afford to put in air conditioning in your home, you’re not thinking about working to improve local air quality.”

Where Lent lives in Massachusetts, the biggest threat from climate change is the increasing number of severe heat waves, which affect older people most directly.

“It’s a problem, but then people forget and move on,” he said. 

Separating Science and Politics 

Politics is a big part of what informs attitudes toward climate change, Smyer said, and older adults are more likely to lean conservative; that may serve to reinforce their skepticism. Research shows that those who identify as left-leaning tend to express more concern about climate change and want more action to reduce its effects. Conservative older adults also tend to express significantly less concern than their Generation Z or millennial Republican counterparts, according to a Pew Research Center survey.

Howe, who is a conservative Republican, hopes science, not politics, can inform older adults’ views on the issue. He worries climate change has become politicized in a way that tends to make people of all ages resistant to scientific facts, noting the growing distrust in science he sees in response to the COVID-19 pandemic. But he’s also hopeful that education can help change some minds. 

“When I talk to groups, I try to address skeptics in the audience,” he said. “I try to get people to think that this isn’t just a political, polarizing issue. I share my personal journey. I thought fixing climate change meant killing the economy. It doesn’t have to. There are a lot of ways to solve it.” 

The Doctor Is In (Virtually)

As a retired registered nurse, Donna Bening, 81, has known for decades that telemedicine was coming. Her expectations have been realized this year.

Bening had two virtual visits via videoconference: first with her primary care physician for a routine checkup, and later with her rheumatologist for a follow-up to track the progress of her rheumatoid arthritis. Bening loved the convenience. Her primary care physician, Bening noticed, checked on her from home, casually dressed, sans the usual white coat.

“Neither of us had to get dressed for the appointment,” Bening said.

Millions of older Americans tried telemedicine for the first time in 2020. Due to the pandemic, medical providers quickly pivoted to virtual visits to minimize potential exposure to COVID-19 for vulnerable older patients, and Medicare expanded its coverage to reimburse for telemedicine visits, which were previously not covered.

“The pandemic took something that was ready to launch in some form and accelerated the adoption of the new technology,” said Joshua Septimus, MD, a primary and internal medicine physician at Houston Methodist Hospital who sees many older adult patients. “I think it will have a lasting impact.”

Many experts believe telemedicine will continue to play a bigger role in medical care for older adults after the pandemic, especially if Medicare maintains its coverage. But while telemedicine offers many advantages to older adults, some worry an overzealous push for widespread adoption could leave some patients behind or push them toward virtual visits even when they really need to be seen in person.

“I worry that people are being blinded by the efficiencies [telemedicine] creates to the limitations,” Septimus said.

Advantages of Virtual Visits

Telemedicine is the use of communications technology to deliver health care to patients at a distance. Virtual visits typically involve video and audio communication, via a laptop or desktop computer, tablet (such as an iPad) or smartphone, but may also include medical visits conducted by telephone. Some expand the definition of telemedicine to include written communication between patients and doctors via email or an online portal.

Early studies indicate that patients are responding positively to virtual interactions.
For many older adults, the biggest and most obvious benefit of telemedicine is the ability to consult a doctor or other medical professional without leaving home.

“Traveling to a clinic or doctor’s office can be an exhausting task for older adults,” said Jessica Voit, MD, an assistant professor in the Department of Internal Medicine at UT Southwestern Medical Center in Dallas who specializes in geriatrics. “Some patients need a family member to take off work to bring them in.”

Eulaine Hall, 87, of Dallas likes that advantage. When her annual checkup took place over the telephone a few months ago, she didn’t need to arrange transportation to the doctor’s office via the city’s transit service for seniors. Hall, who has macular degeneration, can no longer drive.

“Avoiding the trip was major,” she said. “And I felt like the doctor spent more time with me and asked really detailed questions.”

Other advantages: doctors can conduct visits from wherever they are, saving time and money. With the patient’s permission, a third party—another medical specialist or a family member—can easily be pulled into a virtual visit.

“You could have multiple physicians in a consultation with the patient at once, instead of having the patient make multiple visits to multiple doctors,” said L. Arick Forrest, MD, vice dean of clinical affairs at the Ohio State University College of Medicine. “Telemedicine offers the possibility of a more patient-centric approach.”

Telemedicine makes it easier for patients and doctors to have frequent, brief check-ins.

Another advantage: doctors can glean a better sense of a patient’s living situation through a video visit.

“I enjoy seeing patients in their homes,” said Voit. “I get insight into their daily lives. I meet their pets. I might notice things like how it’s a challenge for a patient to stand up from a soft couch, or a throw rug on the floor that might cause a fall.”

Before the pandemic, all visits were conducted in person at Voit’s clinic. Once the pandemic hit, the clinic quickly moved most appointments to videoconference or telephone. Now, it’s a hybrid—the clinic provides some appointments in person when needed and others via telemedicine. Nurses triage appointment scheduling to determine which visits need to take place in person and which can easily and safely be conducted virtually.

“Telemedicine works well for a follow-up visit—for example, if we’re trying a new medication and need to see how the patient is doing with it,” Voit said. “But if I need to listen to the patient’s heart and lungs, or it’s a complex case, I need to see the patient in person.”

Another advantage for older adults: telemedicine makes it easier for patients and doctors to have frequent, brief check-ins.

“As you get older, you get more chronic conditions, and managing those via telemedicine, rather than deferring follow-up until your next doctor visit, is a big advantage,” said Forrest. “With telemedicine, there are more ways to be in constant connection.”

Forrest added that patients can often monitor their vital signs from home, thanks to new, consumer-oriented gadgets, such heart rate monitors, blood pressure cuffs, blood glucose monitoring, or digital pulse oximeters to measure blood oxygen levels. However, insurance coverage for these devices varies.

Technological Challenges

When Rosie Kroft, 80, called to schedule a doctor’s appointment last May, the scheduler told her she’d need to see the doctor via videoconference. Kroft’s cell phone doesn’t have video capabilities, so she enlisted her son to come to her house with his smartphone for the appointment.

“I was pleasantly surprised by how well the visit went, but it would’ve been easier for me to just go to the clinic,” she said.

While many older adults are tech savvy—and many more have become adept with FaceTime, Zoom or other video platforms during the pandemic, to stay in touch with family—some lack the skills or the devices needed to connect with telemedicine. Forrest notes that about 40 percent of patients over 65 in his clinic chose to conduct their virtual visits via telephone, rather than video—about twice as many compared to those patients under 30.

While it was a necessity during the pandemic, “When it’s done by phone, it’s just not as effective,” he said.

In-person visits will always be important. Doctors often pick up subtle physical or behavioral cues that might not come across via telemedicine.

Technology is a barrier for telemedicine for a significant number of older adults in the United States, according to a University of California, San Francisco study.

“Video visits require patients to have the knowledge to get online, operate and troubleshoot audiovisual equipment, and communicate with the cues available in person,” the study reported. “Many older adults may be unable to do this because of disabilities or inexperience with technology. An equitable health system should recognize that for some … in-person visits are already difficult, and telemedicine may be impossible.”

The study estimated that, in 2018, 13 million older adults in the United States were not ready for video visits, mostly due to lack of experience with technology or not owning the right devices.

“Telecommunication devices should be covered as a medical necessity, especially given the correlation between poverty and telemedicine unreadiness,” the study recommended.

The study also noted that older patients are more likely than younger patients to have hearing or vision loss or dementia, which can make telemedicine virtually impossible, unless someone is available to assist with the technology.

Permanent Change or Emergency Stopgap?

Many medical visits that initially took place via telephone or videoconference during the pandemic are now returning to in-person appointments, as clinics put safety protocols in place. That’s how it should be, doctors say.

“One concern of mine is that a lot of virtual care is being done [during the pandemic] for respiratory infections, where the patients really should be examined,” said Septimus. “The value of examining someone’s lymph nodes, throat or chest, that’s something you can’t replicate with technology.”

Going forward, the challenge will be striking the right balance—using telemedicine where appropriate, but making sure patients are seen in person when necessary. And determining whether telemedicine will work for a specific visit isn’t always an easy call. It depends on the situation and may vary from one patient to another. For example, a dermatologist might be able to effectively follow up via video with an established patient with a confirmed diagnosis—such as acne or an eczema flare-up—but a suspicious mole or other skin lesion must be examined in person.

“It’s really up to the practitioner to decide who needs an in-person visit,” said Carmel Dyer, MD, geriatrician with UT Physicians/McGovern Medical School at UTHealth in Houston. “We don’t want a patient who needs to be seen forced into telemedicine. On the other hand, we don’t want to drag them down here to the clinic if it’s not necessary.”

Some experts worry that, given the lower cost of telemedicine visits, insurers may eventually push patients to use this route more and more often, even when they really need to be seen by a physician. Physical examinations and personal interactions will always be important for good medical care. Physicians often pick up on subtle physical or behavioral cues that might not come across via video.

“Telemedicine is not a substitute for an in-person visit,” said Forrest. “It’s a complement.”

Geriatrician Carmel Dyer, MD, suggests that patients ask a family member or friend to join them for virtual visits, to be a second set of ears.

Septimus recalled a patient who seemed nervous and fidgety during an exam; when confronted, the patient confessed that he had a drug addiction.

“I never would have noticed that, had I not been with him in person,” he said.

To help make a virtual visit more thorough and successful, Dyer advises patients to prepare just as carefully as they would for an in-person appointment.

Helpful preparation may include:

  • Sitting in a quiet, well-lit location, with the TV off and as few distractions as possible
  • Checking vital signs (blood pressure, temperature, oxygen levels, heart rate and weight) before the visit begins
  • Writing out a list of questions for the doctor
  • Having an up-to-date list of medications
  • Wearing hearing aids or glasses, when applicable

Dyer also suggests that a patient could ask a family member or friend to join the visit to be a second set of ears, or to hold the video device if a doctor needs to see the patient’s gait or a hard-to-reach spot on the body.

Before ending the visit, Dyer advises patients to repeat the doctor’s instructions aloud, to confirm they’re understanding them correctly, and to make sure they are clear on what next steps to follow.

Even in these uncertain times, Dyer recommends that patients see a physician in person at least once a year, and more often if they have a condition that requires it. She also thinks first visits should take place in person.

“Establishing a rapport with a new patient is a bit more challenging via FaceTime,” she said. “In person, you can look the patient in the eye.”

Will Lifelong Learning Change the Way We Age?

Six years ago, Laura Rich signed up for a continuing education class in Chinese art history and archaeology at Stanford University. Her children were grown and she was wrapping up a full-time stint on the local school board. 

“Most of my life, I thought history was boring, but a trip to Shanghai sparked my interest,” said Rich, 58, of Menlo Park, CA. “And I felt like my mind was stagnating a little.” 

The class completely changed her life: she is now an archaeologist. Before the pandemic, she traveled to Europe twice a year for months-long digs in Italy and England. She has continued to educate herself through other classes at Stanford, lectures, conferences and online courses. As she dug deeper into her subject, she discovered she could tackle dense books that would’ve seemed impenetrable before. (“It’s like my brain turned back on,” she said.) Recently, she was elected vice president for outreach and education for the Archaeological Institute of America.   

“If you had told me 10 years ago that I’d be doing archaeology full time, I would’ve fallen over laughing,” she said. “Yet I absolutely love it.” 

Learning as Reinvention 

Rich’s story is dramatic, but one that Ken Dychtwald believes will become more common in the coming years. He lists “more learning” as one of the key ways life will change for older adults in the years ahead, in his new book, What Retirees Want: A Holistic View of Life’s Third Age (2020), which he co-wrote with Robert Morison..

“Lifelong learning may be the most important ingredient in determining the way people age,” said Dychtwald, who is CEO of Age Wave, a company that conducts research on aging populations. “If you’re living in a world that’s moving along very slowly, you go to high school and college, and that education lasts you for life. That world is long gone. In the future, there will be more learning and more of the personal development, fulfilment and untapping of potential that goes with it.” 

Many people associate “lifelong learning” with enrichment classes that cater to the interests of retired people—such as a course in photography or gardening. But today, older adults can choose from a rapidly expanding menu of educational options that allow them to pursue hobbies, grow professionally or even embark on new careers.  

For example, the Bernard Osher Foundation’s Lifelong Learning Institutes, launched in 2002, support 124 programs, geared primarily to older adults, on university and college campuses across the country.

The Road Scholar program, formerly Elderhostel, offers thousands of “learning adventures” in 150 countries (before the current travel restrictions imposed by the pandemic). 

Some universities are adding innovative, full-time, residential programs for older adults. 

Massive open online courses (MOOCs) allow students of any age to learn about almost anything, on their own timelines, often for free. Emerging in popularity in 2012, MOOCs are offered by providers like Coursera, Khan Academy, edX and FutureLearn.  

While college campuses have offered continuing education classes for decades, Dychtwald expects that will explode after the pandemic. 

“Older learners enjoy being in classrooms with people of all ages,” he said. “After we get this virus in the rearview, I think you will see a surge in campuses—at churches, community centers, senior centers, summer camps, museums—that become learning environments for people in later years.” 

Some universities are even adding innovative, full-time, residential programs for older adults who are starting second careers or looking to move from the profit to the nonprofit world, according to Mark Silverman, CEO of Amava.com, an online platform connecting older adults to online learning, jobs and volunteer opportunities. 

He cites the Stanford Distinguished Careers Institute as an example. The Institute brings midlife students to Stanford to attend classes with undergraduate and graduate students and to participate in campus life, with the goal of enabling individuals in midlife to renew their purpose, build a new community and enhance their physical, emotional and spiritual health. 

Silverman believes such programs are the natural outgrowth of people living longer.

“Many people want to continue to work after they reach retirement age, and money is often not the main motivator,” he said. “Now they have this opportunity to rethink everything. They don’t need to limit their opportunities based only on the experiences they had in the past. You can still develop new skills at this age.”

Learning for Employability 

For those still working, lifelong learning is a way to stay relevant. Judy Brown, 60, of Dallas, TX, worked in marketing jobs for most of her career. But when she took a new job several years ago, she needed to upgrade her skills to help market the company’s products online. With help from a colleague, and the online platform Lynda.com, she taught herself digital skills like search engine optimization. 

“I was in a job I didn’t know how to do; Lynda.com saved my life,” said Brown, who later parlayed her new skills into another, higher-paying job. 

Working older adults like Brown have more options now, because education has become more consumer-friendly and modularized in recent years, said Bradley Staats, associate professor of operations at the University of North Carolina’s Kenan-Flagler Business School and author of Never Stop Learning: Stay Relevant, Reinvent Yourself, and Thrive (2018).  

While a young person may opt for a degree program’s broad education and credentialing, someone in midlife likely needs training in specific skills. Higher education institutions are serving the latter group with more specialized online courses and certificate programs. 

“Universities are breaking up that education into pieces,” Staats said. “If you don’t want to spend two years full time, earning an MBA, maybe you take a one-year certificate program in data analytics online instead.” 

Bethany Ross, public services librarian at the Plano Public Library in Plano, TX, sees older adults profiting from those options. 

Expect COVID-19 to further shake up the online learning space and make it more relevant.

“I helped one older woman who came into the library at night to learn Excel, because she had started a new job and her skills were rusty,” she said. “Another taught herself Canva [a website design platform] to launch a small business selling socks on eBay.”  

Ross, 50, turned to Lynda.com to learn PhotoShop and refine her skills in Excel—two software platforms she uses for her job that weren’t taught in her master’s degree program in library science. 

Ross thinks COVID-19 is spurring older adults to become more adept with online platforms. When the pandemic closed the library’s buildings, the staff moved a book club, which normally met in person, to Zoom. 

“We worried that our older members wouldn’t be able to join us online, but most of them found a way to join us,” she said.   

Expect COVID-19 to further shake up the online learning space and make it more relevant, added Fred DiUlus, 78, founder of Global Academy, which helps universities launch online programs.  

“When Harvard said that existing students would be taught the same courses, all online, this fall, without reducing the cost of tuition, that dispelled some of the prejudice against online learning,” he said. 

Joys of Learning

Paul Irving, a former lawyer in Santa Monica, CA, who chairs the Milken Institute Center for the Future of Aging, thinks everyone should return to school at some point later in life. 

“There’s something magic about being on campus,” he said. “It starts with feeding intellectual curiosity, challenging oneself, and realizing the joy of learning. And returning to school can be a huge confidence builder—confidence both in what you know and in how much you learn.” 

Lifelong learning addresses many challenges related to an aging population. Researchers point to a “sense of purpose” as a key ingredient of successful aging and even longevity. One study by Age Wave and Edward Jones identified “purpose” as one of four pillars of successful retirement (along with health, finances and social connections). 

Purpose, the study said, includes giving back to the community, enjoying time with family, as well as “trying new things, developing new abilities and meeting personal goals—intellectual, artistic, athletic.” In other words, learning. In that same study, 95 percent of retirees polled agreed that “It’s important to keep learning and growing at every age.”  

More than 50 colleges and universities around the world are collaborating as they look for ways to become more welcoming to older adults.

Just as physical exercise keeps the body functioning and healthy, experts believe that learning exercises the brain in a way that helps keep it healthy.  One study showed that acquiring a complex new skill—like digital photography or quilting—led to improvement in memory; another suggested that learning a second language, even later in life, may slow age-related cognitive decline.

“Engaging in learning helps protect our brains from atrophy, and when we’re learning, we are more likely to express greater happiness and greater satisfaction overall, as a result of staying engaged in that way,” said Staats. 

Another benefit of learning: social connections. Strong social connections have been linked with physical and mental health for older adults. Taking a class can boost social skills and self-confidence. 

“I have a whole new set of friends who I would not necessarily have connected with before,” said Laura Rich, the archaeologist. “I’ve lived in this town for decades and I knew many people, but this new interest has brought me together with people from different worlds and lifestyles that I would never have met without pursuing something new and opening myself up to something new.” 

Age Diversity on Campus

These new options in learning are opening new opportunities for reinvention, continuing participation in the workforce and social engagement. But some older adults face obstacles. 

Many, especially those 75 and older, aren’t tech savvy and don’t have access to smartphones, computers or Wi-Fi. Those with limited mobility can’t always attend in-person classes. And older adults often don’t feel comfortable in traditional classes at universities, where the student populations generally remain age segregated. 

Some universities are looking to change that, by pursuing ways to include older people as part of their commitments to welcoming people of all backgrounds. Bringing more older adults to campus could also help keep classrooms filled and tuition dollars flowing. 

More than 50 colleges and universities around the world have joined Age-Friendly University, a global network founded in 2012 at Dublin City University to collaborate on ways to become more welcoming to older adults. Washington University in St. Louis, MO, joined the network in 2018, with a stated vision that “Later life will be viewed as a time of active engagement, learning, and purpose, as opposed to current perceptions of stepping back and diminishing relevance.” While still in its infancy, the Washington University program aims to add new courses, certificate programs, workshops and events tailored to the needs and interests of older adult learners. 

Bringing older adults on campus, too, could enable institutions of higher learning to participate more actively in shaping a society that includes a growing segment of older adults. Efforts to address issues related to population aging will be inhibited if students, classrooms and research training remain age-segregated, according to a study published in the Gerontologist, “Making the Case for Age Diversity on Campus.” 

Irving, of the Milken Institute, says that’s key. Encouraging more learning among adults won’t just help individuals age successfully; it will enable societies with large, aging populations to thrive. 

“Wise and knowledgeable populations will distinguish countries and societies in the decades to come,” he predicts. “Those countries that figure out ways to reeducate, reskill and continue to challenge and engage their older populations are the countries that will succeed.” 

Older and Wiser—but Dizzier

Carol Kuhlman vividly remembers a weekend trip with friends about two years ago—because that’s when she started feeling dizzy. The lightheaded, unsteady sensation came on gradually and quickly got worse. 

“It was very uncomfortable,” said Kuhlman, 66. “I had to hold onto things just to keep from falling. By Monday I was so dizzy, I couldn’t go to work.”

Her physician diagnosed her with vertigo, noticing her rapid eye movements, recommended some exercises and prescribed meclizine, which didn’t prove a practical solution. 

“I took one tablet in the middle of the day and immediately slept for five hours,” she said. 

The doctor wrote a note to excuse Kuhlman from work—for just two days. She was still dizzy when she went back. Her colleagues immediately noticed something wasn’t right. “I was very unsteady on my feet and weaving all over the place,” she said. 

Many times, dizziness is caused by something benign, but it’s still emotionally and psychologically devastating. 

Kuhlman’s struggle wasn’t an atypical one for older adults. Dizziness can affect anyone, but older people are more prone—about 70 percent of adults over 65 have suffered from it in some form. And compared to younger people, dizziness in older adults tends to be more persistent, have more causes and be more incapacitating. 

“We see patients with dizziness very frequently, and we take it very seriously,” said Anupama Gangavati, MD, an assistant professor in internal medicine in the division of geriatric medicine at UT Southwestern Medical Center in Dallas. 

A patient’s experience of dizziness may come in a variety of forms: a feeling of lightheadedness or imbalance; a sensation of blacking out; or vertigo, the perception that the patient—or the surrounding environment—is spinning, tilting or moving. 

Several studies show that older people with a history of dizziness are at higher risk of falling, which is a leading cause of hospitalization and accidental death among those over age 65.

While many causes of dizziness turn out to be benign, the effects can be emotionally and psychologically devastating. Dizziness is disorienting and unnerving. Sudden bouts are frightening; chronic cases can be debilitating. 

“It’s a quality of life issue,” said Gangavati. “Dizziness can lead to a lot of psychological distress if you’re not able to control it. Patients should not let it go just because a physician has not addressed it successfully on the first try.”  

What Causes Dizziness?

Accurate diagnosis can be a challenge. Dizziness can stem from a range of issues, including problems affecting the inner ear, brain, eyes, nervous system, vascular system or heart, all of which are subject to aging-related changes, according to Kathleen Stross, PT, a neurological and vestibular therapist.

Many older adults take multiple medications; dizziness may be a side effect of one or the result of an interaction between drugs. Neurological conditions like Parkinson’s can cause dizziness. Even health issues that might seem unrelated—such as neuropathy (numbness or loss of feeling) in the feet—can cause a patient to feel unbalanced and dizzy. Stress, depression or a lack of exercise may also contribute, as can dehydration or hot weather conditions. 

Among older people, one of the most common causes of dizziness is dysfunction of the peripheral vestibular system—the inner ear and its pathways to the brain. This controls a person’s balance and spatial perception. Neurologists call the vestibular system “the sixth sense” and, just like other sensory functions, it changes as people age. 

“As we age, just as our vision changes and our hearing may be affected, the vestibular system ages as well and may not function as well as it did when we were younger,” said Stross.

Patients can help their medical providers to diagnose the cause more accurately by giving a clear description of their dizziness. Stross gives new patients a questionnaire to help pinpoint their experience—what it feels like, how often it occurs and what, if anything, seems to trigger it. 

“The way people describe it can really vary, so I ask patients to tell me how they feel without using the word ‘dizzy,’” said Stross. “For some, it’s a feeling of being lightheaded or off-balance. Some describe it as feeling ‘heavy headed’ or a sense of floating or pressure. Others say they feel as if they’re spinning or moving.”  

Steve Lavine, 65, of Plano, TX, began experiencing dizzy spells when standing up from a chair. They got progressively worse, to the point where he felt he might black out. Lavine checked his blood pressure and found it was low, almost dangerously so. After consulting with his physician, Lavine stopped the blood pressure medication he had been taking for more than six months with no problems. Lavine had since lost 15 pounds through diet and exercise. The medication was now overcorrecting and making his blood pressure too low, causing the dizzy spells. When he stopped the medicine, the problem disappeared in a few days.

A thorough medication review is absolutely important.

Anupama Gangavati, MD

When a patient complains of dizziness, one of the first things Gangavati checks is the person’s list of medications. Blood pressure medications are common culprits, as are antidepressants, beta blockers, prostate medications and diuretics.   

“Medications are one of the most common contributors of lightheadedness or dizziness,” she said. “A thorough medication review is absolutely important.” 

Gangavati also performs an exam, reviews the patient’s medical history and asks about triggers—when the dizziness occurs and what seems to be causing it. 

Beyond drug side effects, Gangavati said she sees three common causes of dizziness among her older adult patients: benign paroxysmal position vertigo (BPPV), orthostatic hypotension and postprandial hypotension. 

BPPV occurs when tiny calcium particles (canaliths) clump up in canals of the inner ear, interfering with normal perception about head and body movements relative to gravity. Doctors diagnose the condition by observing patients’ eyes while they’re moving their heads. Patients with BPPV exhibit rapid, uncontrollable eye movements. The symptoms may be severe, making the patient feel as if the room is spinning, and may lead to nausea and vomiting. 

“BPPV tends to occur in episodic bouts of a few hours,” Gangavati said. “It’s triggered by head movement, and if you stop moving your head and keep it in one position, it subsides or goes away.” 

Orthostatic hypotension is a bout of dizziness or lightheadedness due to a lack of blood supply to the brain, typically triggered when a person stands from a sitting or lying position. Postprandial hypotension occurs when patients feel dizzy or faint after eating a meal, because their blood supply is geared to the stomach to digest the meal.

Trial and Error

Imani Calicutt, 65, of Dallas, sometimes experiences bouts of dizziness, and her doctor’s not sure why.

“Lately, it’s been constant,” she said. “It’s really limiting me because I can’t go very far without having to sit down.”

She’s working with her doctor (now via telemedicine due to the COVID-19 crisis) to determine the cause. Because Calicutt takes an array of medications for arthritis, diabetes, chronic pain and kidney disease, she’s expecting it may take some trial-and-error to find the cause.  

That’s not uncommon, Stross said. 

“In our experience, patients usually need to see three physicians before they get an answer,” said Stross. Because dizziness could relate to any number of areas of the body, finding the right specialist isn’t easy. 

After a visit to a primary care physician, the patient’s next step might be an appointment with an ENT (ear-nose-throat) specialist or a neurologist, or possibly a cardiologist (if vascular issues are suspected) or hematologist (if anemia is suspected). 

Brief moments of lightheadedness are probably not serious but do mention them to your doctor.

To treat dizziness, a physician may prescribe medications or dietary and behavioral modifications. That can include basic steps like ensuring the patient is drinking enough fluids and getting enough rest and exercise. 

For problems relating to the inner ear, including BPPV, vestibular rehabilitation therapy can be effective. Vestibular therapy ranges from simple exercises (a well-known one is the Epley maneuver, which involves positioning the head to help dislodge the tiny particles that cause BPPV) to physical therapy that helps the patient learn to compensate for imbalance and maintain physical activity. Vestibular therapy, when indicated, may provide immediate relief, or it may take some time to see results.

Gangavati added that many older people will experience brief moments of lightheadedness that likely don’t signal any serious problem. But she recommends at least mentioning it on the next visit to the doctor. “I think any dizziness should be discussed with your physician.” 

If acute dizziness occurs and is accompanied by other symptoms—like chest pain, difficulty walking or slurred speech—it could be a medical emergency, like a heart attack or stroke. In that case, Gangavati advises, head to the emergency room.  

Chronic Dizziness

Twelve years ago, as he walked out of the hospital after finishing his rounds, Tom Davis began to feel dizzy. 

“I’ve been dizzy ever since,” said Davis, 58, a physician in St. Louis, MO. Over the years, specialists have come up with different diagnoses: vestibular neuronitis, vestibulitis and Meniere’s disease, among others. None of the prescribed treatments fixed the problem permanently. Vestibular therapy made it worse. He considered surgery, which would destroy the nerve in the inner ear, but that would leave him deaf in one ear and offered no guarantees. At this point, instead of searching for a diagnosis, he’s focused on managing the symptoms as best he can. 

“It really doesn’t matter what’s causing it, because there’s no way to fix it,” he said. “You just have to work your way around that reality.” Regular exercise keeps him strong and helps reduce the risk of falls. On bad days, he takes a low-dose sedative and rests.

Unfortunately, like Davis, some people may have to contend with dizziness as a chronic or recurring issue. He says getting social support is important, especially for older people who might be tempted to isolate or become sedentary, for fear of falls. 

“If you have chronic dizziness, you’re not alone,” he said. “There are many groups on Facebook where you can get support from others.” 

Patients with chronic dizziness can also find helpful information and links to providers on the website for the Vestibular Disorders Association. Several other organizations offer support groups and other resources.   

Carol Kuhlman has been more fortunate. She did find some relief. She returned to work, still dizzy, a few days after her symptoms first appeared. She’s an administrative assistant at a medical school and, as luck would have it, an expert on vestibular disorders was visiting her department that day. 

Coworkers arranged for her to see the specialist, who diagnosed acute peripheral vestibulopathy (inflammation of the inner ear). He prescribed vestibular therapy, which helped reduce the dizziness and restored her sense of balance. Kuhlman still has flare-ups from time to time, but she’s found a way to manage them. Exercise and stress management seem to help.

“When it recurs, I go back to the balancing exercises, which help,” she said. “And when I have a flare-up, I just have to push through.” 

 

Write Your Own Obituary

When Susan deLarios’s mother passed away, she had to scramble to finish the obituary before the funeral. By contrast, when her father died a few years earlier, his obituary was already done—he had written it himself. Given how much easier that made life for her, deLarios said, “Now I tell people: you need to write your obit.” 

A growing number of people are doing just that: they’re crafting their own obituaries as a gift to their families and as a way of having the last say in summing up their lives. Some write them when death is imminent; others prepare them as an exercise in contemplating mortality. 

Whatever the motivation, writing your own obituary ensures the facts are correct, relieves your family of one of the more difficult tasks of the funeral arrangements and allows you to communicate key wishes, such as where friends and family should direct memorial donations.

Self-obits are part of a broader phenomenon: growing cultural acceptance of talking about death. The same “death positive” movement that has led people to gather in Death Cafes to talk about passing, or to read bestselling books like Atul Gawande’s Being Mortal (2015), is also encouraging people to prepare the last word on their own lives. 

While USA Today dubbed them “selfie obits,” self-obits are much more than narcissistic exercises, according to Frank Joseph, a rabbi serving four congregations in Texas. “A prewritten obit relieves a lot of stress for the family during a stressful time. And it ensures that the loved one is being remembered exactly for what they wanted to be remembered for.”

Having the Last Say

When journalist Ken Fuson passed away in early 2020, friends alerted his family that he’d likely written his own obituary. Fuson taught writing classes; his first assignment to students was to write their own obituaries. 

After cracking the passcode on Fuson’s computer, family members did indeed find an obituary written in Fuson’s distinctive, funny voice. The obit ticked off his many journalism awards, followed by a humorous crack: “No, he didn’t win a Pulitzer Prize, but he’s dead now, so get off his back.” Fuson’s son, Jesse, posted the obituary on Facebook—it was long and too costly to print in the Des Moines Register, where Fuson worked for years. The obit went viral. Major news outlets picked up the story. 

Don’t store your obit in a password-protected computer or a safe deposit box. 

“It was really awesome to read someone’s own thoughts on their life after they had died,” Jesse Fuson said. “You could see the humor shine through. It was just a great thing to be left with, not to mention the partial fame it created, which was hilarious in its own way. Dad would be rolling in his urn if he had known his obit was on Fox News.” 

Fuson’s story offers an important caveat: if you write your own obit, you must tell your family or friends that you did so and tell them how to access it. Don’t store it on a password-protected computer (unless you share that password) or in a safe deposit box, which may be sealed temporarily after death.

“Make sure you’ve told all of your children or other next of kin that you’ve done this,” advised Keely Gilham, a funeral director in Arlington, TX. “Make each of them a folder with all of your final wishes, including copies of the obit as well as other important docs, such as your will, preplanned funeral arrangements or life insurance policy.”

A Chance to Review

Fifteen years ago, Cindy Kyle sat down with a glass of wine and spent an evening completing an online form with her final wishes, including a section for her obituary. Although she was in her 40s at the time and in good health, it felt natural for a “dreadfully organized person” who keeps her affairs in order. She listed her family members and details of her schooling, work history, special interests and hobbies, and added words of gratitude for important people in her life.

Instead of being upsetting, she said, “I had a blast. It was a way of summarizing the joys and accomplishments of my life, to think about what’s important and what I want people to know about me.” 

Resources abound to help self-obit writers get started. ObitKit: A Guide to Celebrating Your Life (2009) by Susan Soper is a workbook for recording important facts and life events as well as end-of-life wishes. Legacy.com, an online publisher of obits, offers an extensive archive of articles on crafting an obituary, as well as a compilation of examples of auto-obits. Websites for end-of-life planning, such as Everplans.com, provide places to upload and store an obit (along with other key documents) as well as checklists of information to consider for inclusion. 

Most obituaries typically include basic information such as the deceased’s surviving family members, religious and organizational affiliations, career and other accomplishments, as well as details on the funeral. Checklists, templates and step-by-step guides abound online. But keep in mind that there’s nothing that dictates what a self-obit writer must include. (Consider the humorous, two-word self-obit of 85-year-old Douglas Legler: “Doug Died.”)

It’s not a resume. It’s a representation of how you lived.

— Alan Gelb

Writing your obituary can serve as a memento moripractice for confronting your mortality and taking stock. For some, it spurs positive life corrections, said Joseph, the rabbi. He cited the example of Alfred Nobel, the inventor of dynamite. After reading his own obituary (published in error), which called him a “merchant of death,” Nobel bequeathed his fortune to institute the Nobel Prize. As he hoped, he’s now remembered for the Nobel Peace Prize, rather than for his invention. 

A life-review writing exercise benefits people at any age, said Alan Gelb, author of Having the Last Say, Capturing Your Legacy in One Small Story (2015.) After observing how high school students benefited from writing college application essays, he created prompts for similar writing exercises for older people, which he dubbed “Last Says.” 

To maximize readership and create an interesting tale, Gelb encourages writers of self-obits to look for a narrative arc and to lead off with a statement that captures their essence. 

“Don’t try to tell your entire life story or get hung up on having to cover everything,” he said. “It’s not a resume. It’s a representation of how you lived.” 

An obituary can be funny or serious, short or long, factual or more contemplative. Joan Calhoun’s in-laws wrote their own obits, which were published when they passed away just seven days apart. Her mother-in-law’s obit was short and sweet; her father-in-law’s was lengthy and full of details. Each reflected their respective personalities. 

“That was them,” Calhoun said. “That’s how they were. She was quiet; he was a storyteller who never met a stranger. I just think that [writing one’s obit] is a wonderful thing to do.”

Considering the Cost

In her self-written obituary, comic writer Jane Lotter quipped, “I’d tell a few jokes, but they charge for these listings by the column inch.” Generally, prewritten obituaries won’t save families money. For one thing, many funeral homes will prepare a basic obit (based on information the family provides) as part of the overall cost of the funeral package; others may charge a nominal fee. 

The biggest cost is publishing the obit, and often there’s sticker shock. Newspapers typically charge per word or per line; a short obituary can easily run $200-$600 in a major market paper, whereas a long one can cost upward of $1,000. A photo adds to the cost. 

Note that newspaper editors distinguish obituaries written by a reporter (typically for locally prominent people) from the paid write-ups provided by the deceased’s family or a funeral home. While newspapers publish reporter-written obituaries at no charge, families usually have no control over what’s included in the final story.  

Some newspapers and funeral homes post obituaries online for a nominal fee ($50-$100) regardless of length. If budgets are limited, Gilham advises families to publish a brief obit in the newspaper’s print edition, with basic facts and funeral arrangements, and a longer version online. Bottom line: keep in mind that a long obit could be costly. 

Taking Control

Toward the end of his life, Reid Coleman worried that family conflict would arise over the planning of his funeral and obituary, given one relative’s tendency toward intrusiveness. To pre-empt that, he wrote his own obituary and planned his funeral in detail. It worked—his wife, Kate Coleman, was able to execute his wishes and fend off potential meddling. 

However, Coleman trusted his wife to see things through on his behalf. If you don’t have a reliable next of kin who will follow your wishes, you should enlist legal advice if it’s imperative to have your self-obit published as is. Laws vary by state; in some states it may be possible to appoint an agent to handle funeral and burial details, including the obituary. 

Don’t include your obituary in your will, because it may not be discovered until it’s too late. Funerals (and the publication of an obituary) generally take place immediately after death and before an executor takes control of the deceased’s estate. 

But keep in mind that total control isn’t always a positive. Because most people don’t always see themselves as fully as others do, a self-written obit may be limited. 

That’s one slight regret that Kate Coleman has about her husband’s self-obit: he didn’t brag about himself enough. He didn’t share how he devoted the latter half of his career to reducing medical errors. The obit chronicled his career but failed to mention that he developed a hospital bracelet that uses scannable codes to prevent mistakes. 

“He was a ‘just the facts’ guy and the obit reflected that,” she said. “But I got cards from his colleagues talking about his accomplishments and how meaningful they were.” 

Looking back, deLarios often thinks of things she wishes she’d included in her mother’s obituary but overlooked due to lack of time. But she’s certain her father’s obit included everything important to him, including details about his military service and his involvement in the Masons. 

“That floored me,” she said. “I would’ve never thought of putting that in his obit. Reading his words after he was gone, and seeing what he considered was important, was very profound.”

Health Care Costs: Want an Estimate? Good Luck with That

When Linda Stallard Johnson’s husband had pain in his shoulder, he suspected he might be having a heart attack. His sister had just had one, with similar symptoms. The couple went to a hospital emergency room, where he underwent an EKG, blood tests, a chest X-ray and a second EKG—all, normal. As a precaution, the physician on duty wanted to admit him for a stress test the next morning. But when the couple asked how much an overnight stay might cost, nobody had an answer.

“We even called the billing office and they sent a staff person down to the room, who could not provide us with any information,” Johnson said. 

Unsure what Medicare covered and fearful the bill might prove financially crippling, the couple left the hospital, despite the doctor’s warnings. They were on edge until he finally took the stress test several days later at an outpatient clinic—also, normal. 

The Johnsons’ experience mirrors a problem faced by many Americans: a frustrating lack of transparency in the pricing of medical services and procedures.

Health care costs are not only sky-high, they’re unpredictable. There’s a wide disparity in what hospitals charge, even for routine procedures, and pricing is anything but transparent. Patients who ask for price estimates in advance often get nowhere. Insured patients must navigate a complex array of pitfalls: finding in-network providers, avoiding hidden costs or services that aren’t covered, minimizing out-of-pocket costs. Even those with good insurance may be slammed with “balance bills”—charges for services from out-of-network providers that can run into tens or even hundreds of thousands of dollars. Those without insurance can easily end up bankrupt after a single trip to the hospital. 

Faced with disease, we are all potential victims of medical extortion.

Elisabeth Rosenthal, MD

Rosemary Hinojosa, 68, ran into that problem several years ago when she fell and injured her back while visiting relatives in another city.  She was transported to the nearest hospital, which was out of network for her employer-provided health insurance plan. When she received an $87,000 bill, the insurer refused to pay, arguing that she was responsible for the bill because she didn’t choose an in-network provider.  

“Faced with disease, we are all potential victims of medical extortion,” wrote Elisabeth Rosenthal, MD, in An American Sickness: How Healthcare Became Big Business and How You Can Take It Back (2018).

Older adults are particularly vulnerable. Compared to younger people, they tend to need more medical care, the cost of which represents a larger portion of their overall cost of living. Many live on a fixed income and can’t manage unexpected medical bills or exorbitant drug prices. Those who are near retirement may not be able to bounce back from a big bill. And while insurance and medical billing are confusing for people of any age, they can be even more so for an older person who’s not tech savvy, or who’s dealing with memory loss, hearing loss or other disabilities or who’s reluctant to question a doctor’s authority. 

This lack of transparency in health care costs “places an unfair burden on everybody, but it’s especially difficult for older Americans,” said Cindi Gatton of Pathfinder Patient Advocacy Group, which helps patients navigate health care and medical billing. 

Perhaps the most vulnerable are those ages 50 to 64 who lost their insurance through loss of a job and can’t afford to purchase a plan, according to Lynda Ender, AGE director with the Senior Source in Dallas. Ditto for those 65 and up who don’t qualify for Medicare—for example, immigrants who have no work history in the United States or who are not citizens. 

How We Got Here

How do medical providers get away with this? 

For one thing, insurance has traditionally insulated patients from pricing. Insurance paid the bill; patients often weren’t even aware of the amount paid. 

Aside from Medicare, which sets rates for each treatment and procedure, there’s no regulation that requires doctors and hospitals to keep pricing reasonable or to disclose prices before sending the bill. 

“We always have the right to ask, but there are no laws requiring anyone to give you a price in advance,” said Gatton. 

The pricing system that has evolved in hospitals is so complex, arbitrary and labyrinthine that it’s almost unknowable. Hospitals don’t price procedures based on the actual costs to deliver them; some hospital administrators aren’t even aware of what those costs are. Instead, hospitals have traditionally set prices based on what the market will bear—while keeping pricing data a closely guarded trade secret. Hospitals maintain a retail price list called the chargemaster but, like “sticker” prices on new cars, almost no one actually pays those prices. Insurance companies negotiate lower prices. Often, uninsured patients can negotiate lower prices too, but many don’t know that. 

Imagine if you paid for an airplane ticket and then got separate and inscrutable bills from the airline, the pilot, the copilot, and the flight attendants

— Elisabeth Rosenthal, MD

Many physicians stay out of the billing process and as a result are unaware of the costs of tests they routinely prescribe or whether they’re in-network or out-of-network for their patients. 

Sometimes, providers simply can’t predict an exact price, only a price range. For example, a gastroenterologist might charge a standard price for a routine screening colonoscopy, but if polyps are discovered during the surgery, the procedure becomes a diagnostic colonoscopy, which commands a higher price. 

Finally, billing is piecemeal. Surgeons may know how much they charge for a specific procedure but have no idea what a typical patient ends up paying after charges are added for the anesthesiologist, the hospital facility fee and any blood work, supplies and medications. 

“Imagine if you paid for an airplane ticket and then got separate and inscrutable bills from the airline, the pilot, the copilot, and the flight attendants,” wrote Rosenthal. “That’s how the healthcare market works.” 

What’s the Solution?

Likely it’ll take a major, federally mandated overhaul of the medical system to fix this problem, but that’s unlikely, given that the medical and pharmaceutical lobbies dwarf the defense lobby. President Trump has instructed federal agencies to develop rules requiring disclosure of hospital prices in consumer-friendly, electronic form, including “list prices” as well as the discounted prices that hospitals negotiate with insurers. However, the rollout is still likely years away and is already facing challenges in court.

Some efforts are underway at the state level to improve transparency and protect consumers. New Hampshire, for example, provides an online database of quality and cost, searchable by procedure and for individual doctors and clinics, which are required to provide the information. In Texas, the legislature passed a law (SB 1264) aimed at providing relief to those slapped with balance bills—surprise medical bills that fall on patients when they have (often unknowingly) seen out-of-network providers. 

Patients can take steps to minimize their out-of-pocket expenses. However, the strategy depends on whether the patient has private insurance, Medicare or no insurance at all. 

For those covered by Medicare, price shopping generally won’t save money. Medicare sets rates for services and, in most cases, forbids providers from billing patients for additional charges. 

Uninsured patients can sometimes negotiate a lower price in advance, especially if they pay up front in cash.

For those with employer-paid or individual private insurance, price shopping becomes complicated. The objective isn’t necessarily to find the lowest price; it’s to find the provider who can provide the service at the lowest out-of-pocket cost. Typically, that means calling the insurance company (or consulting its website) to locate a doctor or hospital that’s in network, in which case the insurer will cover all, or a higher percentage, of the cost. 

Keep in mind too that even if patients choose an in-network physician and an in-network hospital, they may still see providers (such as an anesthesiologist) who are out of network, who may then charge them at the retail rate. 

For those with no insurance, price shopping is critical. Uninsured hospital patients not only get stuck paying the bills out of pocket, they’re more likely to get billed those “sticker” prices. On the other hand, it’s often easier for uninsured patients to negotiate a “cash” price in advance, especially if the patient pays up front. Also, some urgent care centers, such as CareNow, pledge to provide prices up front (usually after the patient is evaluated but before treatment begins). Cash prices aren’t cheap but are usually closer to what large insurers pay. Providers are more willing to do this with cash-paying customers, in part because they avoid the cost and hassle of obtaining reimbursement from insurers.

For those who can’t afford insurance and can’t pay cash prices, there are few good options. Many must rely on county hospitals that accept patients regardless of ability to pay. Patients with low incomes and few assets may qualify for Medicaid; states provide this coverage and requirements vary.

How to Price-Shop 

When she fell and injured her hand, Sheryl Monnier decided to call to check the price at a nearby urgent care center before going in for an X-ray. The first person she spoke to refused to provide a price. She called again, waited on hold, got transferred to a supervisor and finally got a number: $111. 

While her insurer may cover all or part of that cost, Monnier thinks it’s important for patients to insist on getting prices in advance.

“I know that the charges my insurance company pays are simply passed along as higher premiums,” she said. If more consumers insist on prices in advance, “market pressure will encourage medical businesses to make the info easily available so consumers can make wise choices.” 

But as Monnier’s experience shows, price shopping takes persistence and patience. Those who wish to price-shop a procedure can start at HealthCareBlueBook.com to get a ballpark price range for their local zip code, then call the provider’s office. The process takes persistence. If the office person says, “I don’t know,” for example, the patient may need to ask, “Who does?” 

Getting a price may also require multiple calls. “Very often, you need to talk to more than one vendor to get the whole cost of a treatment,” said Linda Beck, who provides elder and health-care advocacy. “If you need knee surgery, for example, you’ll need to get estimates from the surgeon, the anesthesiologist, the radiologist and the facility.” 

The biggest challenge for avoiding unexpected costs occurs when the patient becomes sick or injured and starts treatment. Then, it’s up to the patient to ask each provider whether he or she is in network. Even if the hospital is in network, many physicians, radiologists and other providers are contractors who may not be in that hospital’s network. 

When you’re in the hospital, keep track of every service, test and medication you receive. Errors in billing are astonishingly common.

“There may not be much you can do to avoid out-of-network care if you’re in the emergency room, because there may be no in-network providers available, but at least you’ll know the bills are coming,” Beck said.

While in the hospital, experts advise, patients should keep track of every service, test and medication received, to help later identify any charges that don’t belong on the bill. “An astonishing percentage of bills have errors,” said Beck. 

But keeping tabs on medical care isn’t easy for someone like Sophia Dembling, 61, who has undergone almost a year of treatment for amyloidosis, a rare, systemic disease—treatment including chemotherapy and a stem-cell transplant. It’s challenging enough to stay on top of her medications and doctor appointments while managing fatigue, nausea and other side effects. 

“I’m sure I should be more vigilant, but it just makes me tired,” she said. 

On top of that, Dembling occasionally receives big bills that providers claim she’s responsible for, even though she has met her maximum out of pocket and deductibles for the year. So far, she’s been able to sort them out, but only after hours on the phone with providers’ billing offices. The hassle isn’t helping her heal. 

“It’s stress on top of stress,” she said.

Finally, for patients who are slapped with a big bill, there’s almost always room to negotiate. Consider enlisting a health advocate, who can help negotiate a big medical bill, for a fee. (Some charge by the hour; others charge a percentage of the money saved.) AdvoConnection.com provides listings of certified advocates based on location.

Those with employer-provided insurance can enlist help from their human resources department. That’s what Hinojosa did after getting that $87,000 bill for the out-of-network emergency surgery and hospital stay. With help from her employer’s medical-benefits office, Hinojosa appealed the bill, arguing that she had to opt for out-of-network care, given the urgency of her injury. It took some effort, but she eventually prevailed.

“I won all the appeals that I had and ended up paying only $100,” she said. 

Getting Older, Sleeping Less?

Until age 45, Mary Jo Anderson says, she was a “champion sleeper.” 

“It’s like someone flipped a light switch,” she said. “When I entered menopause, I suddenly couldn’t fall asleep.” 

At age 64, she had less trouble falling asleep but couldn’t stay asleep. She woke up almost every hour of the night and felt tired much of the time during the day.

Anderson was not alone. More than half of all Americans over 65 report they have difficulty falling asleep or staying asleep, according to the National Institute on Aging.  

It’s a miserable feeling. While everyone else sleeps comfortably, you’re awake. Anxious or distressing thoughts occupy your mind. The longer you stay awake, the more you worry about not getting enough sleep. You fear you won’t be able to function the next day; you fret over how the lack of sleep may affect your health. A vicious cycle ensues: the more you can’t sleep, the more you worry about not sleeping, which keeps you awake. You start to dread bedtime and another night of trying desperately to sleep—and failing.

“It’s a cruel joke that life plays on us,” said W. Christopher Winter, MD, founder of the Martha Jefferson Hospital Sleep Medicine Center and author of The Sleep Solution: Why Your Sleep Is Broken and How to Fix It (2018). “When we’re youngworking nonstop, with kids running around the housewe wish we just had more time to sleep. Then we get older and have more time, and your brain’s saying, ‘I don’t really want it anymore.’”

Plus, the media are full of alarming reports that connect sleeplessness with health problems. Chronic insomnia is linked to increased risk of developing obesity, Type 2 diabetes, hypertension, heart attack, depression or anxiety. Research also links insomnia to Alzheimer’s and other forms of dementia (although it’s not clear whether the insomnia is a cause or an early symptom). Sleep-deprived people are more prone to falls or car accidents as well as forgetfulness. And, according to the National Sleep Foundation, a lack of sleep is linked to overeating—especially the overconsumption of junk food—which can lead to weight gain. 

On the flip side, people who do sleep well are more likely to be alert, function better mentally and are even more likely to maintain a healthy weight. 

But there is hope for those of us who call ourselves poor sleepers. With a “sleep makeover”changing habits that disrupt sleep, developing routines that promote sleepiness at bedtimemany older adults can get the sleep they need. 

The Roots of Sleeplessness

Researchers divide sleep disorders into two general categories: dyssomnias and parasomnias. Any sleep disorder that causes daytime drowsiness is a dyssomnia. That includes insomnia as well as other conditions, such as sleep apnea or restless leg syndrome. Parasomnias are sleep disorders with odd or irregular behaviors that occur during sleep, such as sleepwalking or night terrors.

People with insomniadifficulty falling asleep or staying asleepmay experience fatigue, low energy, difficulty concentrating, mood disturbances and decreased performance at work. Chronic insomnia isn’t an unavoidable aspect of normal aging, but sleep patterns do change as we age. It’s possible to understand these changes and not let them cause unnecessary distress that keeps you up nights. 

“Among healthy older adults, the brain circuit that controls sleep just isn’t as robust compared to that of their younger selves,” said Steven Lin, MD, neurologist with Healthcare Associates in Medicine, PC, in Staten Island, NY. “Plus, older people tend to have medical or other issues that may interfere with normal sleep.”

People over 65 are more likely to suffer from chronic conditions, such as arthritis, which can cause pain that can awaken them at night. They may be more prone to bladder issues that necessitate repeated nighttime trips to the bathroom. For elders caring for a spouse or a loved one, sleep may be disrupted when they get up at night to tend to the person. Older adults are also more likely to take medications that affect sleep or cause daytime sleepiness even after a good night’s sleep.

Experts say it’s normal for older people to take longer to doze off at night, to sleep more lightly and to wake several times during the night.

The timing of sleep may change too. Older adults tend to become sleepy earlier in the evening and wake up earlier in the morning. One National Sleep Foundation poll found that about two-thirds of adults over 65 consider themselves a “morning person,” considerably more than in the general population.

Experts also say it’s normal for people to sleep more lightly as they get older. Sleep occurs in cycles that are repeated several times during the night, including dreamless periods of light and deep sleep and periods of active dreaming (REM sleep). Beginning in middle age, people naturally spend less time in deep and REM sleep. They tend to wake up more often, an average of three to four times a night. Older people also are likely to take more time to fall asleep and have more difficulty staying asleep. 

Plus, an older person who’s sedentary—due to mobility issues, for example—may simply need less sleep. Ditto for someone who is retired, who need not arise at 6 a.m. every day or face the daily stresses of a job.

For older adults, a sleep makeover can start with simply recognizing these changes that come with age—and not getting too distressed about them. Try to minimize anxiety that might trigger more sleeplessness, Winter said

“Our sleep patterns change throughout life,” he said. “I’m 47. My sleep is not the same as it was when I was seven or 17. I have occasional nights where I’m lying in bed awake up until 4 a.m. I try to enjoy the quiet time, rather than getting stressed about it.” 

Resetting Sleep Rhythms

One important step in a sleep makeover is to work with your body’s circadian clock—the natural rhythms that make us alert during the day and sleepy at night, ​and that include the waxing and waning of the sleep-promoting hormone melatonin. With exposure to sunlight during the day, the body’s secretion of melatonin tends to drop off. As it gets darker at night, melatonin secretion increases.  

To reset your sleep rhythms, you should adopt a consistent sleep schedule with an emphasis on arising at the same time each day.

In addition, these steps may help:

  • Avoiding caffeine, alcohol, nicotine or other chemicals that interfere with sleep 
  • Creating a comfortable sleep environment (cool, dark and quiet) in the bedroom
  • Establishing a calming, pre-sleep routine
  • Making an evening to-do list so you don’t fret over what’s ahead the next day
  • Eliminating late-afternoon and early-evening naps
  • Eating and drinking enough, but not too much or too soon before bedtime 
  • Exercising regularly but not right before bedtime
  • Taking melatonin supplements under a physician’s supervision

An effective sleep makeover should also involve using light to your advantage. Get plenty of exposure to sunlight. Avoid electronic devices (e-readers, cell phones, tablets, TV or computer screens) that emit blue light, which can delay or disrupt sleep, in the hour before bedtime. 

Incorporating relaxation techniques, such as meditation or yoga, as part of your bedtime routine may help too, Lin said. Similarly, it’s a good idea to avoid anything too stimulating (a tense or engrossing novel, a violent film or the TV news if that upsets you) at bedtime. 

But how do we stop thinking about those news reports about the dangers of poor sleep? They can trigger anxiety. And anxiety is the enemy of good sleep. 

It’s easy to underestimate the number of hours you slept. Pay attention instead to how you feel the next day. 

“Unrealistic expectations about sleep that are not helpful can add to a patient’s stress, and that can lead to chronic insomnia,” Lin said. Because older people sleep more lightly and wake more often, or simply need less sleep, they may worry about a lack of sleep even when they’re actually getting enough. That leads to more stress, which leads to more trouble falling or staying asleep, triggering a vicious cycle. 

Experts advise against getting too hung up on how many hours you’re asleep on a given night. Sleep needs are individualized. There is no “gold standard” for how much sleep an older person needs; rather, it’s based on how people feel and how well they function on the amount of sleep they get. It’s more important to pay attention to how you feel during the day rather than how many hours you slept.

Adding to the anxiety, people can also easily misjudge the number of hours they are actually sleeping. Sleep medicine specialists call that paradoxical insomnia, according to David Luterman, MD, medical director of the Sleep Center at Baylor Scott & White in Dallas. For example, patients in the sleep lab—where sleep is monitored during an overnight stay—may report they didn’t sleep at all. 

“Yet the measurements taken of their brain waves showed they were asleep for at least four hours,” he said. “The patient’s perception is ‘I’m up all night’ but that’s not really the case.”

If you’re feeling anxious about how little sleep you’re getting, try wearing a fitness tracker (such as a FitBit) that monitors sleep. These wristband devices may not differentiate precisely between REM, deep and light sleep, but Winter said they do tally the total number of hours you’re asleep with reasonable accuracy.

“If a patient tells me he’s sleeping only an hour or two a night, and the device is saying he’s sleeping six hours and 13 minutes on average, I believe the device,” he said.  

Don’t Lose Sleep Over a Little Lost Sleep

We all experience sleeplessness at times. You may feel tired and worried about it, but it may not actually be worrisome. 

Winter cautions against equating insomnia with sleep deprivation, especially occasional insomnia. Those studies that warn against the dangers of too little sleep, he said, relate more to people who never get enough rest: the single mom working two jobs who can manage only four hours of sleep a night; the hard-charging executive who gets up at 4 a.m. to work out; the person with chronic sleep apnea who awakes four to five times an hour at night. 

It’s normal for people to experience insomnia for short periods after a stressful event, such as a divorce or the death of a loved one, Luterman said. During very stressful periods, he recommends considering the option of sleep medication, which may help avoid short-term, stress-related insomnia that turns into chronic insomnia. However, because older people respond differently to medicines than younger adults, sleep medication should not be taken except under a physician’s supervision. 

“It’s a careful balance,” Luterman said. “You don’t want to rush to prescribe patients a sleeping pill when the root cause of insomnia may be something else.” 

He added that the American College of Physicians recommends that, for patients of any age with chronic insomnia, the first line of treatment should be cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT) rather than medication. CBT is solution-oriented psychotherapy that treats specific problems by modifying dysfunctional thoughts and behaviors. Behavior modification might include simple steps like going to bed an hour or two later if you’re not feeling sleepy or devising a helpful routine for times when you can’t sleep. (When that happens, experts advise against staying in bed and tossing and turning; instead, get up and do something quiet, like knitting or reading boring materials, until you start feeling sleepy.)

In general, sleep medication is recommended only for the short term—several weeks at most. After a longer period, patients can build up a tolerance to sleeping pills (needing increasingly higher doses for the same results) or become psychologically dependent so that the idea of going to sleep without a pill causes anxiety. Follow your doctor’s instructions and stop taking the drug as recommended.

“When you compare the two—sleep medications vs CBT—research shows the results are the same, or CBT is a little better,” Luterman said. 

When to See a Doctor

Anyone experiencing trouble sleeping that lasts more than a few months should consult a physician, to eliminate underlying emotional or medical conditions that may disrupt sleep, such as depression or restless legs syndrome, a condition that causes a twitching or tingling sensation and an uncontrollable urge to move the legs at night.  

If insomnia persists, your doctor may prescribe a visit to a sleep clinic. That involves spending the night sleeping in a private room, with equipment that can help detect sleep problems by monitoring brain activity, eye movement, heart rate, snoring, body movements and more. 

Before you go to the clinic, the doctor may ask you to keep a sleep diary for a few weeks, noting how much sleep you got, when you went to bed and how many times you woke up during the night. That information will be compared to the results in the lab. 

Don’t Get Discouraged

While there are indeed many ways you may be able to improve your sleep, there is no one-size-fits-all answer. You’re going to have to experiment to see what works best for you. The solution may involve doctors and sleep clinics, or maybe simple changes in your routine will work wonders. 

Vickie Parker, 67, was waking up every morning at 4:20 a.m. and couldn’t easily fall back asleep, even though she was still tired. So she developed a routine that seems to work: a trip to the bathroom, a heating pad to relieve pain in her shoulder, and turning down the thermostat in her bedroom by a degree or two. If that doesn’t work, she takes a low-dose sedative prescribed by her doctor. 

And Mary Jo Anderson eventually found an unconventional solution that helps her fall and stay asleep: a podcast called Sleep with Me, which the New Yorker described as “the podcast that tells ingeniously boring bedtime stories to help you fall asleep.”

“The host talks in this lull-y, drone-y voice,” Anderson said. “He’ll tell a story or recap a popular TV show. On one, he narrates while he’s putting together an Ikea bed. It helps shut down your mind but it’s not interesting enough that you stay awake to hear the end. It’s been the best thing for me.”

Are Pets Really Good for Older People?

An older couple put aside some of the food delivered by Meals on Wheels in order to have enough to feed their dog.

A widow delays an important visit to the doctor, fearing no one will care for her cat if she is hospitalized.

An older man living alone with a sick pet agonizes over a terrible choice: incur vet bills he can’t possibly afford or have his only companion euthanized.

Heartbreaking stories like these point to a difficult reality. While pets can benefit older adults’ health and happiness, they can also lead to financial burdens, near-impossible decisions or devastating grief.

Do the benefits of pet ownership really outweigh the risks?

Weighing Benefits with Costs

For many older adults, animal companions can make a huge difference in quality of life.

“People with pets in general are happier and healthier,” says Nicki Nance, a licensed psychotherapist and associate professor of human services and psychology at Beacon College in Leesburg, FL. “Pets require a structured schedule and daily exercise. They provide a sense of purpose, constant companionship, physical contact and humor.”

Those benefits can boost mental and physical health. An American Heart Association research review concludes that “pet ownership, particularly dog ownership, may be reasonable for reduction in cardiovascular disease risk,” with the most significant benefits associated with owners who walked their dogs regularly. The Human Animal Bond Research Institute (HABRI), a nonprofit, research and education organization, cites research that points to the benefits of therapy animals: they can calm older people with dementia and alleviate anxiety and distress for those undergoing cancer treatment.

Doctors often encourage their older patients to adopt a pet. But psychologist Hal Herzog, author of Some We Love, Some We Hate, Some We Eat: Why It’s So Hard to Think Straight About Animals (2010), questions whether the data is strong enough to warrant a doctor’s recommendation. While some studies point to health benefits, others show little or none. He also notes that studies show correlation but don’t prove causality: it’s not clear whether pet ownership makes people healthier, or healthy people are more likely to have the energy, motivation and financial resources to take care of pets. Most analyses, he adds, don’t factor in the lifetime cost of owning a pet in the United States, which can run upward of $10,000.  

The hardest part of my job is having to tell an older adult that a beloved pet needs to be euthanized.

—James Moebius, veterinarian

The downside of pet ownership should not be underestimated. Pets pose a significant risk of falls. A cat underfoot, a dog that pulls too hard on a leash, or pet toys on the floor can cause a person to stumble and fall. A 2009 Centers for Disease Control analysis estimated that more than 86,000 injuries due to falls each year were related to cats and dogs, with the highest rates of injury occurring among people 75 and up. For older adults, a fall can have devastating health consequences; a hip fracture, for example, can lead to long-term impairment, nursing home admission or death. 

Dogs need to be walked, all animals need to be fed and most must be groomed at least occasionally or have cages that should be cleaned regularly. These tasks are time consuming and can be hard for someone with limited mobility. Pets need trips to the veterinarian for routine wellness visits and illness. That can be traumatic, as well as costly, and difficult for a person who doesn’t drive. 

Then there’s the trauma of losing a pet. 

“The hardest part of my job is having to tell an older adult that a beloved pet needs to be euthanized,” says James Moebius, a veterinarian in Sachse, TX. “It’s even harder when it’s an older gentlemen who lives alone and who’s part of that generation that doesn’t express feelings. You watch him walk out alone, silently, without his little dog, and it just pulls your heart out.” 

Making It Work

Barb Cathey, CEO and founder of Pets for Seniors, an adoption program in Illinois, admits there are ups and downs and often, unexpected outcomes. She helped a client named Betty to adopt a rescued dog named Zoe, and the match was a happy one. However, Betty’s family returned Zoe to the shelter a year later. A fall had forced Betty to move to rehab for several months, and no one could care for the dog. The shelter agreed to keep the dog until her owner recovered. 

Meanwhile, Betty wasn’t doing well, refusing to even try to cooperate with her rehab therapist. Then her daughter brought Zoe for a visit. Delighted to see the dog, Betty immediately moved in her bed to make room. The therapist encouraged the family to bring Zoe back regularly to keep Betty motivated. 

“Betty ended up getting better, with Zoe’s help, and eventually was able to take her back home,” Cathey says. 

Before adopting a pet, a person should carefully consider all potential challenges as well as ways to minimize problems. A key first step: choosing a pet that’s a realistic match for an older adult’s physical capabilities and energy level.

“The worst mistake a senior can make is getting an energetic puppy or young dog,” Cathey says. Ditto for a dog or cat that requires lots of expensive grooming (such as a breed with long hair) or a young pet that’s almost certain to outlive the owner by many years. 

Shelters have a hard time finding homes for older animals, but they’re often a good match for older adults.

Cathey worked with an older woman whose family gave her a Jack Russell puppy, a breed known for its high energy level.

“She would call me in misery because the puppy was too much for her and she did not want to hurt their feelings,” she says. “I convinced the family to let me find a new home for the Jack Russell pup and found an eight-year-old Pomeranian that was housebroken and just wanted to lay in her lap all day—just what she wanted.”

Shelters have a hard time finding homes for older animals, but senior pets often make a good match for older adults, according to Linda Ross, a retired counselor who worked with aging populations. Ross and her husband are in their 70s and are both healthy and active, yet they chose to adopt an older dog after theirs passed away in 2010. 

“Older pets tend to be housebroken, quieter and less energetic,” she says. “And if they’re rescued dogs who’ve been homeless or in a shelter, they are just so grateful to have a soft bed and a good routine. We just love on them and they love on us.”

Finding Solutions

Those heartbreaking stories—the older couple who put food aside for a pet or the widow who postponed medical attention—were the impetus for the founding of the Seniors’ Pet Assistance Network (SPAN) in the Dallas area. Caseworkers for local aging-related agencies had noticed the challenges of elders living alone with pets, and how a little help might go a long way. 

Now, SPAN serves low-income older adults in the Dallas area with regular deliveries of pet food as well as help with veterinary-care costs. Grant money pays for food for about 75 animals; volunteers deliver it once every other month and spend a little time checking on each client. SPAN’s clients also receive an allotment of up to $300 per year to cover routine vet care, including immunizations, heartworm medication, and flea and tick prevention. 

“That’s significant, given that many live on as little as $1,200 per month in Social Security benefits,” says Laurie Jennings, SPAN’s co-founder.

For others, potential problems in pet ownership can be addressed with a little advance planning. Some veterinary costs, such as immunizations and spaying or neutering, can be minimized by taking advantage of low-cost clinics offered at animal shelters and pet-supply stores. For those who can afford it, pet insurance offers a way to help owners avoid wrenching decisions about vet bills. Owners pay a monthly premium but may be covered (depending on the type of plan) if pricey treatments are needed. 

To prevent falls, the CDC recommends that pet owners consider obedience training, installing night lights on walkways, moving the animal to another room or a crate at night, or even choosing a light-colored pet rather than one with dark fur. 

And in the event that an older pet owner loses a beloved animal, veterinarians can often help with the grieving process by pointing them to a pet-loss support group. 

Making Arrangements for Future Care  

Jennings often hears from family members who tell her, “That animal is keeping my parent alive.” But on the flip side, it’s a source of worry.

“We have a client, a 97-year-old widow, who has a very ornery, 9-year-old poodle,” she says. “She lives for that dog and frets over who will care for the dog if something happens to her.”

Some older adults want to provide for their pets in their wills, according to Lori Leu, an elder law attorney in Plano, TX. She recommends checking with a friend or family member first to see if they’re willing to take the pet after the owner dies or becomes incapacitated. That arrangement should be put into a will, along with (if possible) a small bequest to help cover the pet’s expenses. 

Although they are careful to avoid making promises, the people at SPAN try to help clients “rehome” pets if they can no longer care for them. It’s not always possible, but they do have success stories.

Jennings recalls Bobo, the beloved pet of an elderly woman who lived alone and was dying of cancer. Family members wouldn’t take Bobo, a pit bull mix, and because he was a little aggressive, Jennings despaired of ever finding a home for him. But a rescue group took Bobo, helped socialize him and found him a home.

When the young man who adopted Bobo learned of his previous owner, he offered to bring the pet to visit her one last time, just a few weeks before she passed away. 

“So, we have this photo of Bobo, this massive pit bull, lying on top of her in her bed,” Jennings says. Now SPAN receives a holiday card each year from the young man, with a photo of Bobo sporting a Santa hat.

“You make wonderful human connections doing this work,” says Jennings. “It’s beautiful.”

Breaking the Age Barrier

Art Russell, 60, counts at least a dozen 20-somethings as friends: the guys he fences with; a 26-year-old colleague at work; and several people who attend his church. Although he also has many friends his own age, Russell values those younger ones.

“They have a fresh perspective that reminds me to stay enthusiastic about life,” he said.

Unfortunately, Russell’s social circle is unusual.

According to a 2017 report by Generations United and the Eisner Foundation, most Americans rarely have meaningful interactions or conversations with others (not family members) who are 20 or more years younger or older.

“Intergenerational friendships are the exception rather than the rule: for the most part, age segregation prevails,” the report concluded.

Most of us live in age bubbles. People tend to socialize within their own age groups at work or in school. Families with young children flock to kid-friendly neighborhoods; young adults head to apartments and condos in trendy locations; older adults whose children have grown gravitate to retirement communities.

Even multigenerational settings—such as churches, synagogues or community centers—tend to tailor programming by age: a yoga class for seniors; a Bible study for young adults; a science camp for kids. As a result, most of us have few opportunities to make friends with people outside of our own age groups.

“All of this is counter to what we know about what people need to thrive developmentally,” according to Eunice Lin Nichols, vice president at Encore.org and director of Gen2Gen, a campaign to encourage intergenerational connections. “Experts agree that age segregation contributes to social isolation and can reinforce stereotypes and perpetuate ageism.”

Friendship Transcends Age

When Mary Ann Eaton, 91, broke her hip in early 2018, she hired Diane Cannon, 60, to drive her around and to help with chores while she recovered. The two women became fast friends; now they talk by phone at least once a day and get together often. The 31-year age difference seems irrelevant.

“It’s very easy to talk to Diane,” Eaton said. “We have the same sense of humor, we both love animals and we’re both hard workers.” (One of Eaton’s first requests was for Cannon to drive her to a class to keep her real estate license up to date.)

If more older people made younger friends, experts believe that could help address a number of concerns related to the aging of the US population. Intergenerational friendships might counteract the “loneliness epidemic” that was identified in a 2018 Cigna survey of more than 20,000 Americans over age 18. Nearly half of respondents reported sometimes or always feeling alone (46 percent) or left out (47 percent).

…millennials are awesome. Almost none of the young people I know fit the stereotypes.

— Art Russell, age 60

Older people tend to stay healthier, both physically and cognitively, when they have strong social connections. (One study showed that loneliness has an impact on mortality similar to smoking 15 cigarettes a day.) Also, when elders nurture friendships with younger people, it helps assure that those who live into their 80s and 90s can maintain a vibrant social life even if they outlive their peers.

 Another advantage: intergenerational friendships promote mutual learning and enrichment and dispel ageist stereotypes. Even though he works in tech himself, Art Russell’s younger friends have tipped him on a couple of useful smartphone apps that he uses every day. When asked, he’s been able to offer them advice on relationships and careers.

“And I think millennials are awesome,” he said. “Almost none of the young people I know fit the stereotypes.”  

That’s a common side effect of intergenerational friendships—ageist stereotypes are quickly contradicted.

“If we get isolated by generation, we only talk about what’s relevant to our own generation,” said Donna Butts, executive director of Generations United. “We are richer and more able to look beyond our immediate concerns when we’re engaged with people in other age groups. To really slow down and listen—that’s how we share our humanity with each other.”  

Friends Gone Viral

A man in New Jersey befriended a woman in Florida by way of Words with Friends, an online game. Normally, that wouldn’t make the news. But in this case, the man is a 22-year-old African American rapper and the woman is an 81-year-old white retiree. A photo of their first meet-up went viral on social media, and the story made the New York Times in 2017.

What would it take to make friendships like this more common, rather than a newsworthy rarity? A number of initiatives are connecting older and younger people:

  • In Boston, a startup called Nesterly pairs older homeowners with young adults, especially students, who need housing. Housing is expensive in Boston, yet an estimated 90,000 spare bedrooms are going unused in the homes of aging empty nesters. The living arrangements have created friendships like that of Sarah Heintz, who’s in her 70s, and her roommate Dean Kaplan, 25. They share meals and enjoy talking politics.
  • Judson Manor, a retirement community in University Circle in Cleveland, offers a handful of apartments at no cost to 20-something graduate students at the nearby Cleveland Institute of Music, in exchange for performing for the residents. Friendships naturally arose between the older residents and the students. Viola student Caitlyn Lynch became so close to 90-something resident Clara Catliota that she asked her to join her wedding party. Catliota couldn’t travel to Oregon for the ceremony, so she hosted a wedding celebration for the couple at Judson.
  • A social services program called DOROT (which means “generations” in Hebrew) connects 7,000 children, teens and young adults with 3,000 older adults in New York City. The program enlists volunteers to serve as “friendly visitors” to isolated older adults, hosts intergenerational chess games and art sessions and provides opportunities for older adults to read to children. DOROT has sparked friendships like the one shared by Ramon Couzon, 78, and Vera Ruangtragool, 34. In 2015, Ruangtragool delivered a gift package from DOROT to Couzon shortly after his wife of 30 years died. He told Ruangtragool he was struggling with her loss; she responded by sharing how meditation had helped her find peace. Now, Ruangtragool visits Couzon weekly; the two chat before doing a 40-minute guided meditation. Both say they’re happier and more hopeful as a result of the friendship.

While programs like these can help connect people, experts say that awareness, an eye for shared interests and a little extra effort can lead to friendships that grow organically.

“It may start with something as simple as saying hello to your neighbor,” Butts said. “Everybody who lives in a neighborhood or an apartment building has the potential to have more interactions with people of other age groups.”

Intergenerational Collaboration

Intergenerational collaboration can also benefit organizations, Butts noted. Research shows that when teams involve people of different generations working together on an artistic or business project, they’re more productive and resourceful. Such collaboration can also spark intergenerational friendships.

That’s what happened when filmmakers Matt Starr, 29, and Ellie Sachs, 25, decided to remake the classic film Annie Hall with actors recruited from an older adult community, Lenox Hill Neighborhood House in New York. Starr and Sachs appreciated how the older actors consistently showed up on time early in the morning and were willing to work hard, even in hot weather. After the project ended, the young filmmakers and the elder actors continue to get together occasionally for lunch, a stroll in the park or even dance classes.

When young people don’t appreciate what older adults have to offer, Sachs said, “I think we just lose the potential to make incredible friends.”

Sachs said her new friends have shared guidance about love and life that she’s found more valuable than advice from her peers.

An intergenerational friendship has also enriched the lives of Courtney Cox and Carey Smith, both personally and professionally. In 2001, the two women started jobs in the same week in the art department of JCPenney. Cox was fresh out of school; Smith was returning to work after a hiatus to raise two kids. Despite the 27-year age difference, the two women made an immediate connection.

“If you’re creative, you tend to hang out with creative types,” Cox said. “I don’t notice the age difference. We have a lot of belly laughs. You don’t have that with everybody.”

Now, at 41 and 68 respectively, Cox and Smith have new employers and live in different cities but remain close friends. Recently, Cox needed graphic design help on a project for her current employer, so she hired Smith as a contractor. Smith traveled to North Carolina and stayed at Cox’s home during the three-month project. Cox said she often relies on Smith’s depth of experience, both in work and personal situations. Her older friend has faced some challenges—such as caring for a parent diagnosed with cancer—and was able to guide Cox when she faced the same situation with her own mother.

An intergenerational networking group in New York stages events that draw sold-out crowds.

That kind of mentoring doesn’t just benefit younger people; it also enriches the lives of the older people who serve as mentors. The Harvard Study of Adult Development, which has tracked more than 700 men over almost 80 years, found that those in middle age and beyond who invested in caring for and developing the next generation were three times as likely to be happy as those who did not do so.

“We were intended to live in community with one another, with older generations bringing wisdom, perspective and a lifetime of skills and experiences to younger generations, and younger generations bringing vitality and joy to the older generations,” said Nichols of Gen2Gen.

Younger people too see the need to tap into the wisdom of older adults. Charlotte Japp, 28, was “desperate” to connect with older mentors for advice on everything from maneuvering office politics to how to confront a manager about a difficult situation with a colleague. At the time, she was working at the online news site Vice; none of her colleagues were over 45. So Japp started CIRKEL, a networking platform that has organized a series of intergenerational events in New York that have drawn sold-out crowds.

Each event brings together older and younger people in a particular industry for informal mingling and structured discussions. A networking night for fashion professionals, for example, gave young millennials getting started in the field a chance to meet established influencers like Anna Wintour, 69, editor of Vogue, and Robin Bobbé, a fashion model in her 60s.

“For most CIRKEL attendees, the experience of coming to a party where the room is filled with people from all different ages is really new,” Japp said. “Many of the guests are having meaningful, enthralling conversations with someone from a different generation for the first time, and their view of that generation is shifting with each interaction.”

One of Art Russell’s younger friends, Robby Hare, 30, experienced that shift himself.  Before getting to know Russell and other older people in his church, Hare thought of boomers as the authors of the ubiquitous Internet memes that disparage millennials. Now he sees them as allies.

“When you take time to get to know someone, you realize they don’t fit the stereotype,” he said. “As I got to know Art, I began to see him as a person and as a friend, not just an old guy. It’s really hard to be prejudiced against people you know and like.”  

Spiritual Support at the End of Life

This is part 2 in our series on spirituality and aging. Read part 1 here.

Eric Markinson identified himself as a chaplain when he walked into the hospital room of a man he calls Tommy, who was dying of alcohol-related liver disease.

“I don’t think you can help me much,” Tommy said. “I’m an atheist.”

Markinson, associate pastor of spiritual care at Grace United Methodist Church in Dallas, replied that he was there to help in any way that he could. In the conversation that followed, Tommy said he’d rejected the religion of his childhood, which taught that God was judgmental and unforgiving. Now he feared the judgment of his girlfriend and children over the years of alcohol abuse that had led to his impending death.  

Even though he was an atheist, Tommy was in spiritual distress.

“At the end of life, people can struggle just as much with spiritual pain and guilt as they do with physical pain,” Markinson said.

Increasingly, medical and hospice professionals are recognizing the reality of this spiritual suffering, and they are focusing on ways to integrate spiritual support into the care provided at the end of life.

A chronic or life-threatening illness can trigger spiritual struggles even for patients who are not religious.

“Patients who are challenged by illness are likely to need assistance to find strength, hope, meaning, comfort and healing,” said Ann M. Callahan, author of Spirituality and Hospice Social Work (2017) and associate professor in the social work program at Eastern Kentucky University. “Health care providers may not be able to prevent spiritual suffering, but they can support spiritual well-being.”

When Congress created the Medicare Hospice Benefit in the 1980s, it included reimbursement for spiritual care. Hospitals and physicians now routinely ask patients about their religious and spiritual preferences as part of the intake process. Medical schools teach courses in spirituality as it relates to patient care. And chaplains are trained to offer spiritual care not only to those in their own traditions but also to people of a variety of religions, as well as those who are atheist, agnostic or “spiritual but not religious.”

“We are trained to meet people where they are and to be a nonanxious, supportive presence,” Markinson said.

All of this emerges from a growing body of research suggesting that religious or spiritual ties can promote healing and improve patient outcomes. Studies show that many patients want their physicians to discuss their spiritual beliefs; among those at the end of life, 70 percent would want their physicians to know their beliefs, and 50 percent would like their doctors to pray with them. Studies also demonstrate that most hospitalized patients believe spiritual health is as important as physical health and that many rely on faith and prayer to cope.

Spiritual Distress

The diagnosis of a chronic or life-threatening illness can trigger spiritual struggles for patients, whether or not they are religious.  

“One is inevitably led to ask, ‘What is my life all about? Am I ready to die? Is there something I am still missing in this life?’” said Ruben L. F. Habito, professor of world religions and spirituality at Southern Methodist University’s Perkins School of Theology. “With such questions may come some kind of fear, anxiety, a sense of regret, a sense of longing. These thoughts and sentiments arise from the core of one’s very being, that realm that can be called ‘spiritual.’”

Some patients experience spiritual distress or spiritual suffering—an inability to connect with what gives their lives meaning—and some medical professionals say this diagnosis can cause just as much suffering as physical pain. In one small study, 96 percent of patients with advanced-stage cancer said they experienced spiritual pain.  

With help, that pain can often be alleviated. Working as a team, medical professionals, chaplains and social workers can help address the spiritual suffering of those facing the end of life.

“Patients can transcend spiritual suffering by finding meaning and making sense out of their experience,” Callahan said. “This might require the help of a spiritual care provider and the services of other professionals, volunteers, family members and friends.”

In a nation that’s increasingly diverse, offering spiritual help can be tricky.

Help might come in the form of prayer, scripture, rituals (such as anointing or last rites) or spiritual counseling, or even assistance in helping a patient, when appropriate, to reconcile with an estranged friend or loved one. Markinson was able to help Tommy initiate a conversation with his loved ones, who forgave him. That provided some closure and helped assuage some of the spiritual pain compounding his physical suffering.

But offering spiritual help can be a tricky proposition, given the increasingly diverse spiritual landscape in the United States, as well as the fact that more people are identifying as spiritual but not religious.

Over the past 30 years, training for chaplains in theology schools has evolved to prepare them to serve patients of different faiths and spiritual practices—either directly, or by connecting them to resources related to their personal beliefs. Chaplain programs give students a basic understanding of all the world’s major religions. Student chaplains also learn to let patients take the lead in their spiritual care.

“Before, chaplains might have gone in as spiritual guides and talked to patients,” said Jeanne Stevenson-Moessner, professor of pastoral care at Southern Methodist University’s Perkins School of Theology. “Now, we’re learning to first listen and then converse. It’s a real shift.”

Instead of offering a few pat words of wisdom, which might ring hollow, chaplains are taught to first listen to the patient’s words, pay attention to nonverbal clues and then tailor their care accordingly, Stevenson-Moessner said. This patient-led approach helps ensure that the chaplain’s guidance is truly relevant to the patient’s particular spiritual struggles, as well as appropriate for that patient’s beliefs.   

For example, if a patient talks about regrets or expresses a desire for forgiveness—whether from God or a higher power—the chaplain can offer reassuring insights. That might come in the form of a Bible passage or traditional prayer for a Christian, or a passage from Rumi or the Tao for someone who identifies as spiritual but not religious.

Spiritual Turmoil

While spiritual beliefs may offer comfort, they can also provoke turmoil.

Some patients with regrets may worry that God is punishing them with a life-threatening disease, for example. Others, whose spirituality emphasizes the connection of mind, body and spirit, may view a diagnosis of life-threatening illness as a sign of failure, said Laura Howe-Martin, a psychologist and assistant director of behavioral sciences at UT Southwestern Medical Center’s cancer institute in Dallas (TX).

Some patients feel enormous pressure to maintain a positive attitude, based on a belief that it will affect their disease. Caring professionals call it the “tyranny of the positive attitude,” according to Howe-Martin.

“We know that the mind and body are incredibly related,” she said. “But some interpret the research to mean, ‘If you think this way, it increases your risk of cancer’ or ‘If you have a good attitude, you’ll live longer.’ We just don’t have any data to back that up.”

A key part of the chaplain’s role is to alleviate any unhealthy emotions, whether they originate in rigid religious beliefs or open-ended New Age spirituality, said Michael Washington, palliative care chaplain at Baylor Scott & White Medical Center in Dallas.  

Resolving spiritual distress can help patients make better end-of-life decisions, such as when to discontinue treatment if it’s not likely to prolong life significantly. Sometimes his counsel helps patients find their voices when they no longer wish to continue treatment and their families aren’t supportive.

Good spiritual care can also make bereavement easier for those left behind.  

“After patients pass, the bereaved can have a lot of untoward health effects,” said Reeni Abraham, an internal medicine physician who advises a course on medicine and spirituality at UT Southwestern Medical School. “Having a death that’s the least distressing is not only important compassionately for the patient but also for their support system.”

Spirituality also offers an avenue for a deeper relationship between patients and their physicians, Abraham added. If she notices a Bible or a devotional at a patient’s bedside, she might inquire: “How are you doing? I see that you’re reading the Bible. Do you want to tell me more about that?”

In situations like this, physicians must tread carefully, always following the patient’s lead and never proselytizing. But when the patient expresses an interest, and the physician feels comfortable, shared prayers or spiritual conversations are healing to some.

“We hope this kind of spiritual support provides for increased comfort and better relationships with patients’ health care teams,” Abraham said. “The goal is to advance health, and health is a conglomerate of many things. It’s a holistic approach to a patient.”

Spiritual Assessments

Most hospitals and many doctors now take a spiritual history or spiritual assessment as part of the patient intake process. Spiritual assessments provide yet another way to understand and support patients in their experience of health and illness, according to Abraham.

“It’s important to treat patients holistically,” Abraham said. “I firmly believe that really helps us to advance care. That’s beneficial for physicians as they build relationships with their patients, and as they walk beside their patients during all the milestones in life that they’ll see together.”

The spiritual assessment also helps identify beliefs or faith affiliations that could affect a person’s treatment plan—such as a Jehovah’s Witness, who might refuse a blood transfusion for religious reasons.

One of the most popular models is the FICA Spiritual History tool, which asks patients questions about faith and belief (“Do you have spiritual beliefs that help you cope with stress?”), importance (“Have your beliefs influenced how you take care of yourself in this illness?”), community (“Are you part of a spiritual or religious community?”) and address in care (“How would you like me to address these issues in your health care?”)

“The goal is to find out what is important to the patient,” said Marita Grundzen, associate director emerita of Stanford Geriatric Education Center at Stanford School of Medicine. “Some might say, ‘I’d like my pastor to visit,’ or ‘I’d like to have communion.’ Another might say, ‘I’d like access to the outdoors. I can better heal with a nature scene outside of my window.’”

Spiritual Sensitivity

Sally Mandler and her husband, Gene Beasley, both consider themselves spiritual but not religious; Beasley used to joke that he was a “born-again pedestrian.” After Beasley had a stroke last March—on top of pre-existing Alzheimer’s disease—Mandler enlisted the help of an in-home health agency, which sent caregivers to assist with bathing, dressing and other needs. Many were young men from Ghana with a strong Christian faith and, in one case, a lack of sensitivity to those with different beliefs. One man insisted on praying “in Jesus’ name” over Beasley at bedtime.

Even with his compromised cognition, Mandler saw the distress in Beasley’s eyes, and asked the caregiver to leave.

Professional caregivers do usually try to avoid offering spiritual input that may be viewed as intrusive or inappropriate. Yet when the patient identifies as spiritual but not religious, the definition of what is appropriate may be unclear.

Open-ended questions can help tease out what’s important to patients and to find ways to support them appropriately, Washington said.

“I ask, ‘What will be meaningful to you at this time?’” he said. “The answer is whatever the patient tells you.”

If the patient asks, Washington might offer a prayer to a Higher Power, rather than God or Jesus. Or he might help a patient reflect on legacy and what he or she hopes to leave behind. Sometimes it may mean helping the patient to find closure by forgiving a family member or by asking for forgiveness. Sometimes it’s simply a promise by the chaplain to be there at the end.

“I am meeting the needs they have and respecting their spirituality,” he said. “It’s not about my faith background. It’s about the patients and what is meaningful to them and to their families.”

Sometimes, sensitive spiritual care may even mean keeping religion or faith out of the equation entirely.  

“If I ask, ‘What gives your life meaning?’ and the patient says, ‘Fishing,’ then my response is, ‘Great. Let’s talk about fishing,’” Abraham said.  

Stevenson-Moessner notes this trend toward treating mind, body and spirit together is part of ancient medical tradition. In indigenous cultures, religious leader are also healers; Hippocrates noted in 460 BC that the spiritual and the physical were intertwined.

“It’s nothing new,” she said. “It’s just that we’ve reclaimed it.”

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