Important Update: Temporary Closure of the Nancy S. Klath Center
Due to water damage, the Nancy S. Klath Center at 101 Poor Farm Road is temporarily closed and under construction. For your safety, please do not visit the building. We will notify the community when it is ready to reopen.

CMAP remains fully operational during this time. Staff are working remotely and from the Suzanne Patterson Building at 45 Stockton Street. Programs will continue as planned at the Suzanne Patterson Building and in virtual formats. We appreciate your understanding as we work to minimize disruption to our community.

Decluttering, Ho! Strategies for Creating a Tidier, Stress-Free Space

Are you surrounded by sentimental keepsakes, items that might come in handy someday, and a hodgepodge of papers and gadgets you don’t know what to do with? If so, you’re not alone! Many of us accumulate items for a variety of reasons.

Objects hold sentimental value and can remind us of significant moments in our lives. High school yearbooks, the ball from your daughter’s Pitch-N-Putt hole-in-one on a family road trip in 1972, the mezzaluna knife passed down from your Nonna, the clacking-marble Newton’s cradle from the office you did good work in for forty years — these all represent facets of our personal histories, and it makes us feel good to have them around us.

Other objects we hold on to because they might be useful someday, or because it seems wasteful to throw them out. Who hasn’t received a gift and immediately thought: This is a good box! Or kept that XL left-leg splint in case another tall person happens to break their left leg too?

Things can accumulate for less compelling reasons as well, such as habit (condiment packets! Playbills! Holiday cards!) or uncertainty about how to get rid of them. Before we know it, we find ourselves surrounded by an ocean of stuff, hindering our comfort and productivity — even holding us back from moving to places better suited to our current lifestyles. This is where a decluttering adventure begins!

Here are some strategies to get started:

Say No to Junk Mail:
Treat junk mail like a vampire — don’t invite it in! Keep a recycling bin near the door to dispose of it promptly and prevent it from piling up.

One In, One Out Rule:
Control clutter by adopting the “one in, one out” rule. For every new item brought into your home, discard or donate a similar item.

Everything Has a Home:
Designate specific places for different types of objects to prevent duplication and maintain an organized living space.

Learn Local Disposal Procedures:
Familiarize yourself with your neighborhood’s waste pickup opportunities. Check your municipality’s website for bulky trash pickup procedures and county resources for paper shredding and hazardous materials disposal.
Mercer County’s 2024 Special Waste disposal dates can be found here: http://www.mcianj.org/

Attend John Walsh’s FYI Decluttering Program:
On February 5, at 2:00 p.m. CMAP is hosting a seminar by John Walsh, CEO of Walsh Senior Solutions. Mr. Walsh has helped many families with decluttering, downsizing, and moving. His lively presentation will give you strategies, tips, and proven game plans for conquering your clutter issues! The seminar is free and will be held both in person at NSK and hybrid via Zoom. Register here.

Join the Clearing Spaces Support Group:
If you’re seeking motivation and support during your decluttering journey, consider joining Clearing Spaces, a weekly Zoom support group held every Monday at 3:00 p.m. starting February 12. We will share strategies, and success stories, and tidy up small spaces together while enjoying upbeat music. Participation is free! Register here.

Follow these strategies to reclaim your space and make room for the life you want to lead. See you at the Decluttering FYI and Clearing Spaces!

Guía compasiva en tiempos desafiantes

Muchas generaciones, en varias partes del mundo, hemos evidenciado conflictos y guerras a través de la historia. Han sido años de muchos de nosotros dedicados a la búsqueda y la construcción de paz desde nuestra labor diaria.  

Vivimos cada día con noticias desde distintas geografías con nuevas crisis, migraciones en aquí y allá, polémicas decisiones de cada mandatario, entender el papel de las organizaciones y el nuestro propio, y a la final, esperar a que un acontecimiento nos traiga esperanza.  

 Sin embargo, los tiempos actuales no son la excepción. El mundo tiene nuevos desafíos, la polarización es casi que agobiante y es claro que estamos atravesando profundos cambios colectivos. Y aunque nos apoyemos en uno u otro conocimiento intelectual para entender estas situaciones adversas, es completamente normal que surjan sentimientos de desesperación, confusión, tristeza, miedo e incertidumbre en nosotros o nuestros familiares.  

Estamos expuestos como humanidad, y en medio de tan diversos análisis y puntos de vista, no es claro saber qué nos espera. Pero si hay algo que podemos hacer, es empezar a aportar positivamente a la historia colectiva, a través de herramientas como una buena gestión emocional, la resolución efectiva de conflictos, la disminución de la violencia e incluso, el buen cuidado de tu salud mental. Aquí te presentamos algunos tips que puedes implementar: 

  • Acepta la dualidad que habita en cada persona: reconoce la intrincada dualidad en cada individuo, la capacidad para el bien y el mal, la interacción entre el amor y la angustia existencial. Durante momentos desafiantes como los actuales, es fácil caer en el impulso de deshumanizar a otros con etiquetas como “monstruos” y convertirlos en tus enemigos. Sin embargo, la tarea es más bien enfocarte en comprender la complejidad de las personas y evitar caracterizarlas basándote sólo en prejuicios preconcebidos. 
  • No te aferres al dolor colectivo, más bien intenta convertirte en un canal: a diferencia de una maleta que almacena y lleva el peso del mundo, un canal permite que el dolor fluya. Evita identificarte demasiado con el dolor, pues sólo es parte de tu experiencia, no tu identidad.  
  • Humaniza a tus “adversarios”: primero, intenta la autorreflexión y aléjate un poco de tus suposiciones y sesgos. Luego, reconoce que tus adversarios, independientemente de sus opiniones, son fundamentalmente humanos, como tú con miedos y deseos. Reconocer esta humanidad compartida fomenta la empatía, incluso cuando hay desacuerdos.  
  • Asume un papel pacificador(a): hay personas, organizaciones, e historias inspiradoras a nivel mundial. Si alguno de ellos resuena contigo, participa activamente en su misión con tus capacidades, tiempo o donaciones. 
  • Enfócate en consumir contenido de valor: en un mundo de medios masivos de comunicación, manejados por intereses particulares, con titulares divisivos, decídete por consumir libros, boletines, documentales y periodismo independiente. Busca contenido que te conduzca a cultivar perspectivas más profundas y completas, no solo información fragmentada.  
  • Recuerda siempre la fragilidad de la vida: la vida, independientemente de su forma, es efímera, especialmente en estos tiempos tumultuosos. Esta realización puede entristecernos, pero también empoderarnos. Cuando recuerdas la fragilidad de la vida, te motivas a seguir adelante y cumplir tus propósitos. 
  • Elige ayudar a otros: ya sea como voluntario con quienes luchan contra enfermedades o apoyando a refugiados, una vida con trabajo de servicio cambia tu perspectiva y dirige tu energía hacia un impacto significativo y sin espacio para odios ni discusiones triviales. 
  • Reconoce que sí ‘eres el cambio’: a veces, presenciar las luchas del mundo puede hacernos sentir impotentes. Y si bien, individualmente no podamos cambiar el mundo, ciertamente podemos cambiar una o varias vidas, comenzando por la tuya. Sé amable, escucha, cuida y comparte con quien tienes al lado, también esa persona está intentando aligerar el peso actual de nuestro mundo. 

Compassionate Guide in Challenging Times

For many generations across the world, conflicts and wars have been evident throughout history. Many of us have dedicated years to the pursuit and construction of peace in our daily work. 

Every day, we encounter news from different geographies with new crises, migrations here and there, controversial decisions from leaders, understanding the role of organizations and our own, and ultimately, hoping for an event that brings us hope. 

However, current times are no exception. The world faces new challenges, polarization is almost overwhelming, and it’s clear that we are undergoing profound collective changes. Despite leaning on various intellectual understandings to comprehend these adverse situations, it’s entirely normal for feelings of despair, confusion, sadness, fear, and uncertainty to arise in us or our loved ones. 

We are exposed as humanity, and amid diverse analyses and viewpoints, it’s unclear what awaits us. But one thing we can do is begin to contribute positively to collective history through tools such as good emotional management, effective conflict resolution, the reduction of violence, and even taking good care of your mental health. Here are some tips you can implement: 

  • Accept the duality within each person: Recognize the intricate duality in every individual, the capacity for good and evil, the interaction between love and existential anguish. During challenging moments like the current ones, it’s easy to succumb to the impulse of dehumanizing others with labels like “monsters” and turning them into enemies. However, the task is to focus on understanding the complexity of people and avoid characterizing them based solely on preconceived prejudices. 
  • Don’t cling to collective pain; instead, try to become a channel: Unlike a suitcase that stores and carries the weight of the world, a channel allows pain to flow. Avoid identifying too much with pain, as it’s only part of your experience, not your identity. 
  • Humanize your “adversaries”: First, engage in self-reflection and step away from your assumptions and biases. Then, recognize that your adversaries, regardless of their opinions, are fundamentally human, like you, with fears and desires. Acknowledging this shared humanity fosters empathy, even in disagreement. 
  • Assume a peacemaker role: There are inspiring people, organizations, and stories worldwide. If any of them resonate with you, actively participate in their mission with your skills, time, or donations. 
  • Focus on consuming valuable content: In a world of mass media controlled by particular interests, with divisive headlines, choose to consume books, newsletters, documentaries, and independent journalism. Seek content that leads you to cultivate deeper and more complete perspectives, not just fragmented information. 
  • Always remember the fragility of life: Life, regardless of its form, is ephemeral, especially in these tumultuous times. This realization can sadden us but also empower us. When you remember the fragility of life, you motivate yourself to move forward and fulfill your purposes. 
  • Choose to help others: Whether as a volunteer with those fighting diseases or supporting refugees, a life of service changes your perspective and directs your energy toward significant impact, leaving no space for hatred or trivial arguments. 
  • Recognize that you are ‘the change’: Sometimes, witnessing the world’s struggles can make us feel powerless. And while individually we may not change the world, we can certainly change one or several lives, starting with yours. Be kind, listen, care, and share with those around you; that person is also trying to lighten the current burden of our world. 

Meet Alla

“My name is Alla Gadze, and I frequently visit the Princeton Senior Resource Center (PSRC). After living in West Africa for thirty years, I settled in Princeton two decades ago. During my time in Africa, I deeply appreciated the genuine friendliness of the people. I adore residing in Princeton due to its enchanting beauty and outstanding senior facilities and because I am close to my son and his family. That’s why I have always felt a sense of belonging to this place. 

Travel has always been a passion of mine, and I’ve been fortunate to explore numerous destinations, including Bali, Hawaii, London, West Africa, and many others. Among them, Hawaii holds a special place in my heart. However, above all else, my family is my sanctuary, and spending time with them is my absolute favorite. 

As a proud mother, I witnessed the growth of my two children, who completed their high school education in Africa. They have both achieved remarkable success. My daughter currently serves as a principal in a school in the UK, while my son has pursued a career in banking in the United States. 

Today, I want to share some advice: don’t worry excessively, indulge in your hobbies, and embrace happiness. Life is a journey, and cherishing the things that bring you joy is essential.” — Alla Gadze 

by Ana Carolina González-Peña, Coordinator of Diversity, Equity, Inclusion, and Belonging 

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